Here is the first ever video for growthforsuccess.com
It covers going over emotion. I will be writing a transcript for this and save it in a PDF form so you can down load the text in the near future.
Here is the first ever video for growthforsuccess.com
It covers going over emotion. I will be writing a transcript for this and save it in a PDF form so you can down load the text in the near future.
We can choose which of these two polarities we want to experience, life as a magnificent adventure, a journey of ever expanding consciousness or through ignorance, we can choose a life of ever decreasing life force, apathy and as Les Brown says, ‘quite desperation’. It is US that can choose what we will experience.
How do our minds work? What decides the quality of life we experience. Really it is each of us that decides, our experience of this life, albeit often we do so unconsciously.
If we desire great health, a fit strong body, but are addicted to ‘to quote a book title; ‘white death’ (sugar), drama and labeling experience and object we encounter how indeed, do we take the former of the two choices, as our road to travel in life?
If we want to experience higher plains of existence (love, joy, freedom), those realities of whose frequencies are uplifting, we must raise our vibration.
It is not simply by using our will power that we improve our life experience. Yes we can increase the power of our will, that however we can focus on as secondary. Firstly, we must look at our energy in the body.
To quote half of the ‘one does not simply’ quote from the popular Boromir, Lord of the Rings Meme, ‘One does not simply’….. use the thinking mind in its weakened, conditioned and suffering STATE to OVERCOME the many addictions, vices, unconscious destructive and insane, low conscious habits that are keeping us in an endless cycle of pain and unconsciousness.
It is perhaps helpful to acknowledge that often the low-vibration facilitating habits (alcoholism, sex addition, ‘food’ misuses, negative thinking) are not only socially acceptable but that they are celebrated, encourage! Indeed as I increase my life energy and awareness I have been shunned for ditching vices that where hurting me by people who still identify with their pain. I still have unprocessed pain, and put a lot of focus on healing and releasing pain, letting go.
Our BODY not our thinking mind CHOOSES what we do, say, think, eat. This choice is made by the trillions of cells that make up our bodies. They choose foods that are in harmonious vibration with the foods whose ENERGY was used to create them but also with emotions stored inside each cell.
Lots of unprocessed emotional pain (identified by observing your ‘triggers’) + your thoughts, outlook on life, and what you put into your body and mind, and other factors are what determine the rate of vibration in which your body is moving. The movement speed of all the cells in our bodies play the biggest role in making the decision FOR US of what we will eat, think, say, believe about ourselves and everything else we do in life.
It is not as simple as using thought and logic to overcome our bodies current rate of vibration.
This CAN be done but it is rather in-effective. How many times have you tried to use thought to change something you needed and dearly wanted to change, only to ‘fail’ and feel a bit disappointed that repeated attempts you make to grow out of painful habits don’t seem to make much progress??
The rate of vibration of our bodies (level of consciousness we are tuned into) determines our experience in life.
The frequency of reality into which we are tuned is actually what our five senses perceive as life. We must use our HIGHER selves, our sixth sense that which brings intuition, and wisdom to the fray.
As a society, we subjectively understand life to be what we are EXPERIENCING, thinking and feeling.
This causes us certain BELIEFS. We believe life is a certain way. These are simply an illusion, a reflection of the level of awareness into which we have tuned, based on past experience, conditioning, ongoing habits, the quality of the flow of energy in our bodies and who and what we expose our minds and bodies too.
This impacts each given area of life.
So if our experience has everything to do with our level of consciousness, as Jim Rohn said, ‘it’s not what happens to us, it’s what we do about what happens that makes all the difference’.
It is absolutely true that we can at any time INCREASE the quality of our vibration (the rate in which the cells in our body are moving) much like changing a dial on a radio to tune into different stations (frequencies).
When we are NOT observing our conscious/thinking mind (any time we are ‘busy’ with something, not in silence with ourselves) the frequency of the vibration of our bodies energy field is VASTLY the most influential part in determining what we are attracting into our lives.
The law of vibration is the parent law to the law of attraction. The rate of vibration we are in can be observed by bringing awareness into our bodies at any given time and sensing how we FEEL, and in which part of the body we feel it.
As a massage therapist I have learned some amazing things about the body and stored emotion. Just a stomach massage can make people cry from the emotion that is being released. Where do you hold sadness? I did in my throat and stomach. Many people do.
Our thoughts must be monitored when ever we get a moment to check in with them (we must make such moments). That said, what drive us is – E-Motion (energy in motion in our bodies. It is much easier to observe the emotion we feel than it is to try and monitoring every thought you have.
If you can pick how you feel, you can work out what vibration you are in. Each time you increase your feeling for a more useful one that serves you, apathy to gratitude might be a big jump but it’s great to aim for over the long term.
The ‘types of thoughts and emotions’ you are open to receive by means of attracting them depend on your level on consciousness which really means, the higher energy frequency your body and thoughts have, the more of those you will attract, and the same goes for the worse you feel, the more bad feelings you are set up to receive.
So the question is then, what can we do to RAISE our vibration, increase the quality of our experience, increase health and relationships?
Here are some factors, among possible others that inhibit a high, life enhancing vibration:
First: Unprocessed pain, emotions store in the body (movement, yoga, singing help to release trapped emotions)
Second: The vibration of the food we eat – too much dead/processed food = low vibration and thus painful emotions, thoughts and results. Go for more alive foods (fruit, vegies) which have higher vibrations as they are living
Third: The unobserved thinking mind, feeding it too much garbage TV and not enough life and mind enhancing things
We may be successful in sport, relationships, business, but what matters in addition to these things is our PEACE of mind – which goes up the higher our vibration.
A take away would be this: Always be aware that you have and amazing opportunity to experience what ever you want to in your own personal show called life.
This life we all have is akin to a radio station, we can create the lives we want by raising that energy field in the body. It helps us have helpful instead of harmful thoughts. Our FILTER is greatly influence by our vibration.
Being in NATURE in silence is a great healer and raises the vibration very much.
Remember the subconscious mind (the entire body) will automatically do 90% of the same things you did yesterday, think the type of thoughts you had, feel the emotions you felt.
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The purpose of life is to grow, to expand and to experience all we can. We grow physically from the day we are born. We begin in a very vulnerable state, as infants we are not capable of feeding or caring for ourselves; our survival is totally reliant on our parents/caregivers/society.
Then we become toddlers and we wish to explore. EVERYTHING! Indeed, for the first years of our lives, it’s our caregivers duty to prevent us having an early death – just because we are so curious and want to learn, to touch, smell, see, hear, feel, discover new things – and we have no perception of danger, and very little fear. The only two natural fears we are born with are the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises.
Have you ever wanted to try something new, but been to uncertain?
When you where a child you weren’t, but then social conditioning happened.
I will be covering more in how to de-condition your mind, body and release your inner child’s spirit into the world again (currently for most of us, it’s locked away in your mind and body from years of toxic food, and painful unprocessed emotions).
Living a ‘good life’ starts with Gratitude! We start with gratitude and slowly but surely move to love.
This is where to begin increasing your vibration!! It is so powerful. How do you feel when you are appreciating something beautiful, what you have, nature, your family, your life?
Pretty amazing! Conversely how do you feel when you are focused on what is missing or what you ‘should have’ but don’t, something you believe yourself entitled to? Rather average.
The thing is, we are not entitled to ANYTHING. Despite society thinking they are entitled, we are not even entitled to live. It is a GIFT that we are even alive, a miracle called nature.
We cannot control our thoughts, and most certainly cannot think of being grateful every moment of the day.
As such, it’s our vibration we must work on to increase the type of thoughts our minds RECEIVE and the energies our bodies are tuned in to. To increase our general thinking/quality of or thought we must raise our vibration within the body.
We do this by improving our health – which is done by being GRATEFUL for our bodies thus taking CARE of them. We also raise our vibration though embracing self-care not just of the body, but of our minds, our emotional freedom from past pain, and by unlocking the SEVEN energy centres or Chakras in the body. This allows energy to flow freely!
The mind must be cared for too, and in caring for the body, the mind will dramatically increase in it’s potency.
The bringer of all that is good, pleasant, beautiful in life, and conversely, the opposite of gratitude – taking for granted what we have is a most damaging force, are both – states of VIBRATION.
Being ungrateful is sure to take even that which we do have, away, our health, our relationships, our houses, our material possessions.
Let’s also remember not to be possessed by our possessions, programed by low vibrational TV or Netflix shows (those that cause damage to the mind such as shows riddled with intense violence and gore.
On a cognitive level – using simple logic, it is easy to understand how consistently giving thanks for something makes you feel better, makes you feel safer and happier. You feel that life is RIGHT.
As I once read; “if you are not happy and grateful with what you have now, what makes you think you deserve or would be happy with more”?
We live in a world of consumerism; there is no doubt about that. Simply observe the scores of people, cuing at shops as the newest smartphone is released, (even if they cannot fit it in their budget) many of whom have mobiles that are already in good condition and more than serving their needs satisfactorily.
The universe works on laws. Gravity is a law. As is the law of motion. Gratitude can be directly linked to the law of attraction which is a secondary law, as stated, to the law of vibration which really is THE law of the universe.
Everything is in a state of constant vibration – including ‘solid’ objects. The higher the vibration, the better the FEELING we have.
Nikola Tesla said it right, “if you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration”.
Being un-thankful makes you feel BAD (which is simply, you are in a low vibrational state). This attracts thoughts of a like NATURE. The worse you feel the easier it is for your thoughts to be destructive, painful, fearful.
The better you feel, the more your thoughts will be constructive, creative and loving.
When you feel bad and consequently, lower your vibration/the frequency of your reality, what you attract to your life, experiences, people, ‘circumstances’ all those things are coming to you because you have a low vibration.
Look at the people who earn the least (especially those in less privileged areas) in a socio-economic context. Often living in government housing, alcoholism, gambling much money they do not have to gamble, and violence are all more rampart in poorer families (obviously not in all) but it is statistically more common, especially Western society.
Commonly mistaken is that ‘money’ is the root of all evil, but actually it is poverty which is horrible to live in, I would know, having embraced it myself in my youth.
Money is neither good nor bad, it is neutral until someone has it. A ‘good’ person (someone who is in a state of loving vibration) will do good things with money. Someone who is ‘bad’ (is in a lot of pain and fear) will do ‘bad’ things with money.
How would I know? I have lived in these housing complexes and personally experienced how poverty can affect everything, lack of education, poor health and much more. Having gratitude raises you out of poverty! We only DESERVE more by being grateful for that which we already have.
It has been said that being calm in any situation, is the most spiritual practice, and management of every situation.
When you consider this, it has a profound truth behind it.
Ever wanted to start your own business? Or try you skills at a new sport or activity and been too afraid to do it?
Remaining calm, no matter the situation is the best way to get a good outcome. I have been tested and as I seek challenge, and seek growth, I am often tested on this powerful character trait.
Calmness is the space in which to be to achieve what you want and keep away decisions that will get you what you don’t want.
So how do we remain calm?
Personally I am very fond of Stoicism for this reason – it helps you remain calm. Stoicism was founded by Zeon of Citium. Stoicism is a Hellenistic philosophy was used in ancient Rome and Greece.
Very briefly, stoicism makes use of logic and thought, focusing on learning how to not being controlled by our fears or base stimuli/short-lived pleasures.
It has a strong focus on imagining the waste case scenarios of any situation that is causing us grief in a CALM – and logically way. To be a stoic means working out and coming to a realisation that MOST situations we imagine as BAD or TERRIBLE are not NEARLY as bad as the we imagine they are in our minds (which LOVES to magnify POSSIBLE but UNLIKELY devastating outcomes, in every area of life).
There is MUCH more to stoicism than that (I cover more on Stoicism in a subsequent blog – keep an eye out for it).
Another way to remain calm is to deep breathe. It brings us back to REALITY and not the realities our minds like to create when the mind decides the present moment isn’t good enough, not interesting enough.
We always have the capacity to deal with emergencies when they come up – but the phantom problems the mind likes to make cannot be dealt with because they are not even real.
Peace and love to you. Thanks for reading.
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We do not control our thoughts. This goes against everything we are taught!
We’re told we should ‘control our thoughts’ and thus our behaviour and therefore our actions and results.
How can I show you that you are not in control of what you think?
Technically, I can’t but you can see for yourself, by EXPERIENCING it. Try this simple test:
Ask yourself this question; ‘what will my next thought be’? After asking the question, sit and observe your thoughts and write down the exact thought that came to you first.
Try to predict what you will think (do this a few times).
As I am sure you will find, you DON’T control what will come to you.
We don’t know what thought will come to us. We can’t control it.
How do we control what cannot be controlled? Can you control the tides of the ocean? Nope, and it’s the same with thoughts.
The human being does have the ability to channel thoughts, thus it appears we create them.
While we can’t choose precisely what thought we have, we can ‘influence the direction’ of our thoughts.
Someone who plays hours of piano each day, what is it likely they will think about often?
An athlete training for hours a day, do you think that training will be a subject in their mind often?
It’s helpful to note that often we believe– WE create our thoughts – but we don’t (we create environments conducive to certain types of thoughts). But, we are not responsible for the creation of the thought.
No, thoughts come to us through the aether/infinite intelligence (whatever you want to call it). They arise from no-where, are created out of NO THING and they come TO us – they are not created BY us!
Do you truly believe you control your thoughts? How is that so if we don’t even CHOOSE our next thought, moment to moment, they just come to us? Not only do we not choose them, we don’t even know what they will be. We also can’t control IF we do have thoughts or not – they just keep coming – we cannot TURN OFF our thinking.
The main time we direct, at least the general direction of our thoughts is when we FOCUS intently on our conscious thinking – on a particular thought we WANT to have (or indeed, do not want to have) and this takes a GREAT deal of presence and energy to sustain.
It takes considerably MORE energy and awareness to sustain thoughts of a nature that are totally the opposite of what our habitual way of feeling is. As an example, if you more often than not feel anxious, holding a feeling of love (without using some of the techniques I have listed in the latter part of this blog) is VERY, hard, and almost feels impossible!
We have all heard of trying not to think of a pink elephant…. and what comes to the screen of the mind? You betcha, a pink elephant will appear.
When we monitor and consciously direct our thoughts as best we can, we seem to have control – but even then, we don’t know what we will think from one moment to the next.
Apart from when we are intently conscious/focused on our thoughts, the remainder of the time, our thinking minds work on AUTO-PILOT (they work on auto pilot while we observe too, however we seem to be directing them).
If you observe you’re thinking, a thought will come to you! If you observe for quite some time, you will notice such a wide variety of thoughts.
If you really believe you CAN control your thoughts, try to stop having any thoughts for 5 minutes.
Most of us are lucky to last 30 seconds without thoughts popping back into our minds. The exciting thing about this is that thoughts are infinite in their potential and can be about anything. Any human on this planet is capable of having any thought, and thus the actions that thought leads to, and also achieving any corresponding results!
We do not control our lives, we don’t control anything really. … though we like to think we do.
When it’s our time to die on this physical plane, we die. We don’t choose.
We like to think we are ‘above’ nature – that there is nature and in it’s own special category, we have the ‘human being; – the ‘more-important’ creature (look at how we treat other creatures we call food).
Many of us see ourselves as a separate entity, a special exception to nature.
But we are part of nature! We must remember this to heal, to become more present.
This is all very interesting but how does understanding that we are not truly in control of our thoughts each moment – HELP us?
It helps in a number of ways.
First we gain the understanding that thoughts come TO us not FROM us.
The ‘TYPES OF THOUGHTS’ or what we could call ‘quality of thoughts’ we have, CAN be INFLUENCED a great deal by us changing our FEELINGS, the VIBRATION that we are tuned into.
We want to aim for the feeling we want to feel, which will create an environment for the THOUGHTS on the same vibrational/emotional level to inhabit our bodies and therefore our minds.
Look at those who have very little and are GRATEFUL. Gratitude is one of the highest vibrations, coming second only to the highest which is LOVE.
At the other end of the spectrum, we have FEAR – which is the lowest vibration. All kind of atrocities happen because of fear, not least, conformity.
Fear of not having income, causes many to stay in work that is perhaps not a dream career. Fear of being alone causes many of us to remaining in relationships (including the one with ourselves) that are not uplifting, that don’t really serve us.
Remember, fear and love are emotions – they are states of vibration and what determines our thoughts? OUR most often held, feelings, our VIBRATION, our emotions.
You may have heard of ‘The Secret’ a very successful movie and book series about one of the ‘secondary’ universal laws: ‘the law of attraction’. The law of attraction, IE the thoughts we attract, the ‘circumstances’ we attract are EXACTLY in line with the state of vibration we are in.
What this means is, rather than try to change our THINKING we can focus on our VIBRATION (feeling) within our bodies.
So you may be thinking, great Chris, how does this help me?
It helps in this way: we cannot experience a consistent flow of ‘good/enjoyable/constructive/helpful’ thoughts – when we are in a lower state of vibration.
Nikola Tesla said, ‘if you want to discover the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration’.
The ‘secret’ to thoughts that help us is to have our bodies in a higher state of vibration.
So the question we need to answer is: what creates a higher state of vibration?
Before going over a few quick tips to increase vibration lest first get some understanding of ‘vibration’.
Our vibration in the body and mind is easily observed by tuning in to how we FEEL/our emotions. The emotions we feel most of the time are reflection of our dominant state of vibration.
Feeling sad often, lonely or perhaps you are really happy, vibrant, inspired, at peace.
How you feel comes from the sub-conscious mind (the body).
Feelings/Emotions are energy in motion within the body – E = energy + motion = moving.
Different emotions are experienced at different frequencies, different states of vibration in the body.
To increase your vibration here are some tips (BEST TO DO THEM DAILY) or for as often as you want your emotions being at a higher level, thus facilitating a good space for your thoughts to ALSO be of a higher vibration:
ONE: Sing a happy, uplifting song you love and dance to it (movement is key)
TWO: Get your body into really good health. Love your body, put mostly raw and unprocessed, WHOLE foods that are alive (plants) into your body and MOVE your body every day. Even a walk around the block can do wonders.
THREE: Yoga (YouTube search it) – one of the best ways to raise your consciousness – and the only know way to massage and in doing so, help to heal and detoxify your internal organs (the twisting poses do so the most)
FOUR: Meditation – guided if you are beginner (YouTube search it also)
FIVE: Doing what you love! For me it’s writing, music, moving the body (although it is universal, the easiest way to ‘find ourselves, to return home’ is to do so through the body)
SIX: Company – be around people who inspire, lift, and support and nurture you
SEVEN: ENVIRONMENT – being in nature, a walk on the beach, sitting in a park or a forest is a very quick way to raise your vibration. As we are beings of nature, when we go out into nature, rather than spending/wasting all day inside a building, we start to align our vibration with that of nature – the highest vibration there is.
EIGHT: Change your physiology – just sitting upright will raise your spirit and make you FEEL more confident – which of course – feeling is a vibration.
NINE: Learn something new or improve on something you already know. Experience and learning is what we are here for. What else is life about? Hording items that we must leave when we move out of our physical bodies? Experience is life.
TEN: DEEP breathing. This is why movement is so good – it helps us deep breathe, especially when we actually exert ourselves. The harder the work out the more we must breathe deeply, which is the number 1 way our body detoxes, through the breath! Do you work in an office or shop or another building most of the day? How much recycled, unnatural air do you re-breathe all day – that and ‘air-conditioned’ air weaken the lungs – but by deep breathing in nature, we do the reverse.
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In closing, please remember, while we cannot choose the exact thoughts we will have – each of us none-the-less, responsible for our own lives. We CAN improve our vibration, therefore improving our thoughts.
I wish you peace, love, and growth in mind body and spirit
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After this pretty picture, here is a question for you…
Have you ever wanted to build your own business, or a career you love, rather than a job, you just work for money?
Here are some causes and ways to start working towards what you want.
ONE: Social CONDITIONING – causing fear of being vulnerable (and unwillingness to put ourselves out there, physically or mentally)
Often we mistake who we are. We think we are our bodies, our minds – our thoughts.
What we actually are is a collective consciousness, infinite beings of pure light energy and love. That is what we actually are at our core. It is hard to imagine ourselves as pure love when we compromise who we are in relationships (we all do or have in some way shape or form); we also work in jobs that we not only dislike, but that cause us pain (the majority of heart attacks happen on a Monday morning, from people on their way to jobs that steal their spiritual energy).
We are meant to follow our hearts, given that the heart has the most powerful electromagnetic field in the body, about 60 times more powerful than the brain! Yet we are taught to use the weaker part, our cognitive thinking rather than the spiritual thinking power of the heart, yes the heart thinks!
Many teachers, masters of the mind, have said – we are spiritual, eternal beings, having a human experience – in a physical body that will one day, no longer be able to house our spirit. This is true!
The spirit – the undying – that beautiful thing that allows SUPER-HUMAN results, and amazing feats of daring, of courage; that ‘intengible something’ that allows people to tight rope walk across massive canyons with no parachute or safety line, or to jump in water to help someone being attacked by a shark, putting our own lives at risk with no thought for ourselves!
We all want to help other beings when we see them struggling, it’s our nature to love!
The power that can be built in our bodies and minds with correct training, movement, thought, fuel and rest, are so far beyond what most of us do in a lifetime, that it truly is sad!
Why do so many of us live such small lives? CERTAINLY less than what we could – considering we are beings of infinite potential – we have unlimited possiblities!
The body is run by the mind (not to be confused with the brain) – the mind is in every cell of our body, and it goes beyond our physical body. We get caught up on our reality being only what we can see, taste, touch, hear and smell.
When we incorrectly identify as powerless, frail beings, rather than beings of infinite potential, our fear of death increases dramatically (fear of our body being harmed or destroyed), fear of being ridiculed (fear of our mind and ego being ‘wrong’ or ‘challenged’, insulted, made to look like fools) and in reality, the irrational fear of death arises within us, preventing any action taking, other than the ‘mindless-habitual-actions we usually take’.
In allowing this fear to take us over, we conform. To lives where we desperately want to do more, but are so confused, conditioned, misinformed, drugged on our so called ‘food’, and as Ralph of Infinite waters says, our vision is lied to by the Television, “which tells lies to your vision”.
INSTEAD of living free lives, with more time out in nature, we stay in jobs, we have been conditioned to do so.
Since primary school. We are taught to sit in neat little rows, looking at the teacher, droning on about something most of us don’t care about, and must do 12 years of ‘prison time’ before we even start in a job, despite being able to learn everything from reception to grade 12 in 2 years or less.
How long did it take you to speak an entire language?
Did you do school to learn to speak or did you just learn by observing others, parents and so forth?
It would be much more fun to play, and find what we love when we are children, but conditioning and breaking down of the human spirit by keeping it locked inside, doing very dull things is a very powerful way to help create humans who doubt themselves, and are too fearful to go out on their own to do what they really love.
This said, we cannot allow this excuse to stop us gaining back our freedom! As adults we are able to choose now!
I have noticed any time I set out to build a business – my massage business currently, it is a challenging, yet exciting journey! The biggest factor wasn’t actually massaging but the fear of the unknown – would people laugh at me trying to promote my business? Could I ‘mess up’ and not offer the great value I truly want to offer my clients?
TWO Lack of knowledge in your field (feeling unskilled, or not learned enough, lacking experience)
This for me was a factor too – and at times still is.
The only way to acquire more knowledge is to get out there and do what it is you want to learn.
The same is said for experience, it is something that requires doing before you get it.
We all want to do our best, deep down, but we have to be willing to start out not so good, average, do it bad if it’s all you can do to start – but just do it! Get started today!
THREE Don’t feel like doing it…………….. yet
This will never change. You will never feel like taking steps you are uncertain about – but this is called life!
When we understand that we are e-motive beings – that is to say, EVERYTHING we do, or indeed, don’t do – is because we want to feel a certain way, or avoid feeling a certain way – period!
Does what you want to do, mean more to you than the risk involved? Often the risk involved is magnified by our dramatising minds (drama is conditioning, we have it in our families on television – even our NATIONAL LEADERS act like children, creating drama and terrible communication among themselves – blaming rather than taking responsibility)
FOUR: You haven’t found what you want to do as a business (listening to your mind rather than heart)
I had NO idea what to do when I was starting out, and indeed, it still feels like I am starting out…. I don’t think that feeling ever goes away, which is fine – we grow by being uncomfortable.
But what I DID do, was to try new things, to develop myself and my mind. I did my Diploma of Management, wanting to further my career in a call centre, office work. I wanted to be a coordinator and eventually, team leader and manager. This was however, just for financial gain and to improve my skills – not to do what my heart desired, what I was good at, what I was naturally gifted at doing
This was my mind telling me I wanted this so I could ‘be happy’ have more money, and go on better vacations.
I knew it wasn’t for me, after observing managers, and team leaders. I wouldn’t care if you pay me $200, 000 a year, I wouldn’t want to be sitting at a desk, doing something I had no interest in for 40+ hours a week
That is prison to me
I discovered personal development – clicked on a Brian Tracy video on YouTube and knew this was what I loved….
So I did my Diploma of Counselling so I could get a job as counsellor after finishing a degree too, though another reason I did my Diploma of Counselling was to further develop my people skills with and to understand myself better.
$15, 000 of debt later, I am not using my Diploma of Counselling to generate income
I am now a qualified in whole body massage too as I thought it would be fun to work as a massage therapist.
It is not my passion – as much as I enjoy massaging, I wouldn’t want to do 40 hours a week of it, as that would be too much and take away from my biggest three passions, I only learned by trying things – by getting off my couch which are:
Learning and teaching self development for mind, body and spirit
Playing Musical instruments, and inspiring people with music
Becoming strong in my body and testing my skill in competition
FIVE: WE have forgotten we are part of nature – and not getting into nature NEARLY, enough!
Nature can help you return to equilibrium, much faster than most things. It can help to rid us of depression, anxiety, loneliness.
Do you think it is natural to stay in a building, looking at a screen to build someones business for them for 40 hours each week?
Do you think it natural to be really down 5 days a week and enjoy only 2?
It is not – life shouldn’t be a struggle to get out of bed, one opportunity clock should be all we need – rather than multiple ‘alarm clocks’ which we wake up alarmed and knowing we have a day we must devote to doing what we would really rather not.
Many of us have started to feel like just giving it all up (jobs we hate, paying 3 times what a house is worth thanks to interested even though our banking system is broken and unfair to the masses).
We would just as happily live in a cottage in the middle of no where and live off the land.
Is your environment conducive to your success?
Who are you spending time with? What is your home environment like? It must be harmonious (for the most part) and supportive.
You need lots of light and fresh air coming into your house.
What is your real home like (your body). While if your house burns down, it can be rebuilt, your body cannot.
If you die, that is it for this physical experience we are having. Also how healthy you are will play a big part on your mindset, and how you feel about yourself.
From personal experience, when the body is toxic, overweight and being polluted (bad foods, cigarettes, copious amounts of alcohol, bad TV) our confidence becomes much lower!
We need health, of mind and body and our spirit must be unconditioned (DE-Programmed) so we can life lives we truly love. Check out my blog on steemit for regular updates
My original post for this: https://steemit.com/life/@chriszuidam/5-reasons-why-you-haven-t-built-your-life-the-way-you-want-it-yet
Why is it, when we see the word, “FREE”……..
……………something in us gravitates towards it?
Our minds may be thinking: ‘hey has this free thing got monetary value’ or can it help in some other way
Our bodies may think: is it food or drink??
Is it just because we could use a bite to eat or sip to drink, or some more cash that we give this word “free” our attention? Or does something profound, draw us to it…..
Could it be that DEEP down, we feel somewhere in our bodies that we would like to be more FREE ourselves, if only of a few kilos of body weight or a couple of those pesky bills, or to create our own businesses that add value to others and thus more income for ourselves, or just simply, we want to be free for at least a while, of some other responsibilities we feel are eating too much of our time on this earth?
Maybe we are starting to wake up and wanting to be FREE of the mass conditioning we all go through as a society
Living in suburbia in modern society we know that nothing in life, really is free… nothing of value anyway, besides perhaps sunlight, and air though perhaps a lot more things could be, Nikola Tesla’s ideas and discoveries on free energy for everyone *cough, cough*
Are we feeling tired, sombre? Like we aren’t even coming close to using just SOME of our potential, or releasing energy (we release energy not create it – all energy already exists)
Are we so caught up on what others MAY think, or say if we ‘fail’ in our attempts to live our dreams that we don’t even give it a go? Do we stop at one attempt if we don’t get desired result immediately from a couple attempts?
Do we have vigor that enables us to mentally, and physically jump out of bed (after stretching and thinking of what we are grateful for) and running out the front door with excitement, for life (perhaps after getting dressed)!!
In life – Are we letting ourselves down, and if so, does it cause us pain??
Do you the reader, like me, feel like you could use some more education and help with creating more confidence, feeling more energy and unlocking real lasting belief in yourself that –
1. you are able to
2. you are worthy of
– creating your life exactly how you would enjoy living it??
Don’t we all deserve our lives to be inspirational, filled with love and freedom?
If you are a parent, surely it’s not only OK, but it’s EXPECTED that you would want the very best for your child.
If so, why is it not OK to want the very best for yourself, aren’t you a child at heart?
How do you see the future for yourself, your family and those you love around you?
Are you a positive, uplifting person for you fellow person/beings, or do you feel like you need so much uplifting yourself from how much life has crushed you, that you can’t even get out of bed without a stuggle? Do you wake up refreshed or tired?
Does it seem like no one or no thing can give you quite enough knowledge, or the right ‘technique’ or so called ‘secrets’ of success?
I felt the same way for years! Paying coach after coach (til I found my current coach who loves helping people and charges a very modest fee).
I did training courses and seminars, one after the other, each person ‘promising life changing results’
Rarely did I attend a course where there was honest, that we are all responsible for our results and no-one can guarentee anything
A loving act you can do right now for yourself is to consider the following (and if you are going to be really good to yourself, open up Notepad or Word, or grab a pad and pen and take notes on your answers):
When people hear your name, what will they say about you when you 100 years old/if you “make it” to 100?
What do YOU want them to say? Who were you? How did you live, how did your life impact on the earth, what legacy did you leave for your kids and their kids, and your fellow humans?
Were you kind, did you love fully, live your life daringly:
Did you live and strive to experience everything you dreamed, or did you like many of us have at times: conform to mediocrity, and even misery?
DID YOU LIVE YOU LIFE – FREE????
Did you live your days, getting THROUGH your weeks, not really giving life a real go?
…rather than living the majority of our lives, experiencing the gift, the present moment, because we are focused on what we love or were naturally talented at doing
We are all here to create, we all CREATED our circumstances in our lives, albeit we were heavily influenced by society and conditioning
We learn what we love by participating in as many activities we can! By getting out of our houses and living life!
Is your life situation now, one in which each week, the most joyous sound you hear is your own voice internally saying those words “THANK god it’s 5pm Friday”!!
Do you LOVE your life, those sharing it with you and what you are doing with most of your time? Are you working on things that in doing so, will let your spirit soar?
Is you MIND free from worry (at least most of the time), is your BODY free from all dis-ease – all sickness, and is your spirit therefore able to inhabit your mind and body fully, and thus FREE to EXPRESS, grow, share, love and be totally who you are, and created your life dreams you had as a child which you have now convinced yourself you don’t have…
For many of us, at home, in schools and all of main stream society and media, ‘Love’ has been taught to us to be a physical action we share with someone special – and we try to have good emotions towards each other
We are often not sufficiently (if at all) taught the philosophies of REAL love – for ourselves and with others
Most people wouldn’t say when asked, “what is love”, that “love is the desire and willingness to be totally emotional vulnerable and connected, to ourselves,: it’s about Connection to another a person, a being, is not widely taught
The teaching of connection is limited, because most of us haven’t a clue what it is, much less experienced it for ourselves
MOST importantly, we don’t understand connection because our 3 dimensional being, MIND, BODY and SPIRIT do not have a harmonious relationships with each other
Our minds, hurt, we have thoughts that don’t serve us
Many of our bodies are weak, unfit, inflexible and consistently being poised by our actions and put down in our minds, our thinking
To connect with our selves, or someone or something, to have unconditional love; we must first be able to connect with and have love for ourselves – love for our bodies, our minds and our spirit must be free
How long can look yourself in a mirror into your own eyes, and keep all your thoughts and feelings about you – constructive, uplifting and kind?
If it’s not for long, you may be lacking on the ‘unconditional’ side of the unconditional love equation – we all have times where we do lack this
Wouldn’t we all love to have a deep and meaningful, harmonious relationship with ourselves and everything and one around us?
It’s tough, maintaining harmonious relationships with ourselves that are aware enough to keep our thoughts from destroying our lives – our bodies, our environment, our world
We all want to experience enduring freedom from pain creating habits we adopt so we can live a good, long, healthy and prosperous life, one we can fully enjoy with all other people and things we encounter (what we attract is in a vibrational/energy frequency that we put out into the universe, courtesy of who we are at any present moment
But, because we don’t understand love, (that love is doing what we enjoy, not what numbs us so we don’t feel) we continue to do things that make it even harder to be free – because our unconscious thoughts and actions are those of a lowers vibrational frequency, sometimes so low it is simply a basic animalistic existence
Surely this is a most dire question; am I living my life just for base impulse, short lived pleasures, food, TV, sex rather than correctly accessing my energy to thrive!
How can we give up compulsive TV/SCREEN-TIME, NON-FOODS/DRUGS, ALCOHOL, NEGATIVE THINKING, over indulgence in any of the five senses in a non constructive manner – misusing our creativity energy and REALISE our dreams?
How can we give up these things, these time fillers, and mind numbing activities or lack there of, when they comfort us in a way, it’s what we know – and we use to fill the void we would otherwise feel more intensely
How can we give up vices that hold us captive in our own bodies, and prisoners of our own minds, when they the very things we use to fill voids we had created earlier in the day or week by betraying what we really want to do, and who we want to be – the void we created from wasting hours NOT doing what we love, day after day!
Instead we may be going to jobs are not in line with our creative spirits, where an hour sometimes feels like a day, or perhaps we keep doing things to our bodies that harm them, sometimes even consciously unaware
We all at times, do or have done things which are not in harmony with our bodies, minds and what our spirits are naturally drawn to
In doing this what happens is we suppress and ‘give up‘, parts of who we are, what we want to do in life (and try to bullshit ourselves that we don’t have dreams, are unworthy of any we may be aware we have, or incapable of ever doing what we really want, who the hell are we to try???)
EVERY SINGLE person has dreams that are so much BIGGER than what conditioned society, collective mass consciousness believes is possible! I CERTAINLY do.
The past 4+ years of coaching for me have really all been going towards me believing it’s possible to live these dreams!! I have been educating and going to seminars, and reading books for the better part of a decade (I am a mere youngster at 29)
I have learned that humans have global desires:
We have all been conditioned, Programmed but want to break free
We want our bodies back! To be healthy and not addicted to poisons & ‘non-foods’
We want our relationships blissful – especially with our selves so we are FREE
We want to understand wealth and create it – seeing people in poverty is painful!!
We want to be successful
We want to RISE and…
We want to LIFT up those whose lives we can, to touch the hearts of people, other creatures, plants and the beautiful earth we live on
I decided to create something to help myself, and whoever I can live a life that is FREE!
It’s interim name is:
How to wake th* f* UP - using life Questions
This is not a program, but rather an UN-program
It’s purpose is to deprogram myself (building this, working with brilliant people and using it’s principles are precisely how I did it), and the 90% who are living life hurting, not free, but enslaved to impulses, our bodies, and our minds
The goal is to help everyone who is ready, to have harmonius relationships between mind, body and spirit
This is how it works (sneak peak):
UN-programming the MIND things learned from our upbringing/parents, and conditioning tools (school, jobs and other factors)
UN-programming the BODY – releasing emotions which we have held as burdens since we were children (e-motion = ENERGY in motion)
As children when we expresses emotions – we are learning first, what emotions are – they are so powerful – we cannot control them
Energy cannot be created or destroyed – It can be harnessed, channeled, stored, released (it is everywhere, it is everything)
This in mind, when child is born into this our unconscious world we live in (that is slowly waking), often they are punished at home, or at school for expressing ‘inconvenient’, or ‘naughty’ emotions or ‘the wrong’ emotions at the wrong time
When I child has a tantrum, the experience not having something they want, or having to do something they don’t want to in the shopping center for example, and is punished for doing so – the emotion is STORED!
As adults, we have already been conditioned – we know to be ORDERLY, there are social ‘so called NORMS’ that keep us from killing each other – and they are necessary
So when our children have a tantrum and not draw attention to us (or so I have observed I am not a parent yet) we perhaps feel embarrassed and not know how to deal with another being, this child who is learning to express the emotion of, not getting what they want
This is because we were once the child who was taught and indeed, punished, if we expressed the wrong emotion at the wrong time – we were emotionally suppressed
You must release that emotion to RAISE your emotional intelligence!
The reason this is the focus of the course is that, when your mind and body are no longer conditioned – NOW that we are ADULTS – we have the POWER to UN-program useless ‘shit’ programing we were giving that is running, and INDEED RUINING our lives.
We are able to then, CREATE exactly the life we want!!
I will keep posting updates and snip-its of the program and tips how you can unconditioned your mind, body and free your spirit so you can live how you want and help those you meet to do the same
What a great day!
Got so much DE-cluttering done, and made some bank on items I don’t use anymore in the process, which I can invest in what I truly love.
If ever your mind is full of nonsense (noise and thoughts) and you can’t seem to clear it, try doing a big clean of your environment. De-cluttering the house can help De-clutter the mind. We need space to be – to exist.
It is good not to get too attached to items and more importantly not to let ourselves be fooled that an item forms part of who we are as a being.
As Eric Thomas said, ‘The most important thing is this: to be able at any moment – to sacrifice what you are, for what you will become!’
This certainly includes getting rid of items we don’t use or need to someone who could benefit greatly from it, will use it and be grateful for the item.
An example, I sold a guitar I had that I hadn’t so much as thought about much less played in at least 2 years. The house was getting a bit too cluttered (we tend to accumulate items over the years) and I knew it was time for space (mentally and physically – the two are intimately connected – psyche and soma).
The gentleman I sold it too, got a great deal, I sold it for much less than I could have, but I didn’t need more money and wanted it gone to create space!
He told me that this guitar was going to be a child’s very first guitar!
Because I was willing to part with something, that guitar is no longer sitting in a spare room, in case one day I want to play it, and will now be the vehicle to take the first steps in a young mind, introducing it to a most wonderful, magically journey, that of a musician!
The reasons we sometimes keep many things for, ‘one day just in case’, is because we can have believes that are rooted in that of a world of lack – that is to say, a hording mentality – where we feel there is not enough for everyone.
It is understandable in some of our older generation as their parents may have experiences the great depression, so terms like, eat all your food (don’t waste there won’t be enough) become very used by a large amount of people – for survival.
We live in the most prosperous and abundant time in history!
The universe is abundant for what we need. Just look how many lemons you can get from a single tree (mine has about 100 and 100 flowers for more that will start growing).
Lemon trees provide fruit all year!
A lemon is something whose juices will alkaline your drinking water (which is good for heavily chlorinated water such as that in SA). The acidity of the lemon neutralizes the chlorine making the water pure!
Water is the what our bodies need most besides air.
Sacrificing what we are can be getting rid of ‘junk’, don’t keep it if you really won’t use it (there is a 1% chance you will ever use it). It is possible to identify ourselves in part by the items we have – but this is superficial. Sure it’s good to have nice things but don’t be attached to the material. Be attached to what truly matters to you and what you love in life
Moral of the story:
Drink lemon in your water if you don’t have filters in them (plant a lemon tree)
De-clutter – home and mind.
Happy Monday everyone!
A day many fear but I love it!
It reminds me of what goals I have and what value I want to offer others and create in my life too. Don’t merely get THROUGH Monday, and the week only to do it again next week and the week after…..but rather, ‘gather some new knowledge you can act upon, continue to grow in body mind and soul’!
As Jim Rohn said, ‘boy it’s easy to just get through the day, but sophisticated people learn to get FROM the day. Gathering value and equities for tomorrow’.
Let’s have a great, life enhancing week, work hard and smart and remember to have fun!
Let’s be present in all our activities, and our interactions with each person that comes into our lives.
Leave everyone who has interacted with us with a feeling of increase, a feeling of ‘I am happy to have interacted with that person’.
While thoughts are our most powerful tool we can use to create and experience anything we want in our lives, thoughts can also be the most detrimental liabilities we have; holding us back at every turn, preventing us from everything we want if they are left unchecked.
If we do not monitor our thoughts and direct them through focus (repetition of thought, holding an idea in our mind and most importantly, writing it down on paper – the most brilliant minds think on paper) and intention (why it is that you want that thing, what FEELING you want to achieve by gaining this), they do indeed have the potential to run us into the ground.
As an example, I have just discovered motorbikes…..
Now the fact is, I could be a highly skilled stunt rider and learn to do jumps or back-flips while on a motorbike; but the very first step towards this is to have the thought of doing such.
The thought pondered overtime develops into an idea, into a desire, and if it was something I did indeed desire, I would become emotionally attached to that thought and my emotional investment in it would inspire action to create a plan to bring in to fruition.
Everything begins with a thought. Consider this: someone who is struggling, dislikes their job, and possibly relationship or whatever; has a thought – A though about trying an illicit addicted drug to escape their pain, or they have a though about changing everything – about starting a university degree or some other form of personal development or life changing hobby – a worthy goal in that is completed in spare time (time not at work and time discovered by cutting back on TV, Facebook etc) in order to change everything, career, happiness, lives – living life with passion and zest rather than numbing with drugs or similar.
Pondered just once, these ideas are ‘just thoughts’ but this is how everything begins, with just a thought – with an idea!
Everything great and terrible in the human world – both of the directions and decisions above, begin with that initial thought.
Over time, if there are repeated thoughts of these two things (drugs or university/self improvement/growth in this instance) the thoughts will gain power and if these thoughts are written down as SMART goals and acted on there will be a result. Anything thought consistently held in the mind, that is charged with powerful positive or negative emotion – will inspire action helpful or unhelpful.
One of the above thought patterns has potential life-destroying consequences, the other, brings a world of opportunity.
So… what are you thinking? Are your thoughts being directed into an area that empowers you to live life doing what you love, using your natural skills? Do you live your life as a free person who decides their own fate or do you follow the masses, living a mediocre, somber life enslaved to a 9-5 job that bores you to such a degree that you must use base stimuli (junk food, booze, drugs – legal and illegal, television) to survive the day – rather than thrive through each day as we are all meant to!
We all have undiscovered natural talents that if we work on – turn into genius level results. Thoughts of trying new things help us discover these hidden abilities.
Thoughts are our greatest assets or a biggest liability. Thoughts that are repeated over and over in time, lead to emotions which lead to actions. Actions or indeed, inaction are the causes of change in our lives.
Direct your thoughts to the great, to things you love and things will start heading in the direction you want.
What is your favourite quote out of these and why?