Growth, Gratitude and remaining Calm


The purpose of life is to grow, to expand and to experience all we can. We grow physically from the day we are born. We begin in a very vulnerable state, as infants we are not capable of feeding or caring for ourselves; our survival is totally reliant on our parents/caregivers/society.

Then we become toddlers and we wish to explore. EVERYTHING! Indeed, for the first years of our lives, it’s our caregivers duty to prevent us having an early death – just because we are so curious and want to learn, to touch, smell, see, hear, feel, discover new things – and we have no perception of danger, and very little fear. The only two natural fears we are born with are the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises.

Have you ever wanted to try something new, but been to uncertain?

When you where a child you weren’t, but then social conditioning happened.

I will be covering more in how to de-condition your mind, body and release your inner child’s spirit into the world again (currently for most of us, it’s locked away in your mind and body from years of toxic food, and painful unprocessed emotions).



Living a ‘good life’ starts with Gratitude! We start with gratitude and slowly but surely move to love.

This is where to begin increasing your vibration!! It is so powerful. How do you feel when you are appreciating something beautiful, what you have, nature, your family, your life?

Pretty amazing! Conversely how do you feel when you are focused on what is missing or what you ‘should have’ but don’t, something you believe yourself entitled to? Rather average.

The thing is, we are not entitled to ANYTHING. Despite society thinking they are entitled, we are not even entitled to live. It is a GIFT that we are even alive, a miracle called nature.

We cannot control our thoughts, and most certainly cannot think of being grateful every moment of the day.
As such, it’s our vibration we must work on to increase the type of thoughts our minds RECEIVE and the energies our bodies are tuned in to. To increase our general thinking/quality of or thought we must raise our vibration within the body.

We do this by improving our health – which is done by being GRATEFUL for our bodies thus taking CARE of them. We also raise our vibration though embracing self-care not just of the body, but of our minds, our emotional freedom from past pain, and by unlocking the SEVEN energy centres or Chakras in the body. This allows energy to flow freely!

The mind must be cared for too, and in caring for the body, the mind will dramatically increase in it’s potency.

The bringer of all that is good, pleasant, beautiful in life, and conversely, the opposite of gratitude – taking for granted what we have is a most damaging force, are both – states of VIBRATION.
Being ungrateful is sure to take even that which we do have, away, our health, our relationships, our houses, our material possessions.

Let’s also remember not to be possessed by our possessions, programed by low vibrational TV or Netflix shows (those that cause damage to the mind such as shows riddled with intense violence and gore.

On a cognitive level – using simple logic, it is easy to understand how consistently giving thanks for something makes you feel better, makes you feel safer and happier. You feel that life is RIGHT.

As I once read; “if you are not happy and grateful with what you have now, what makes you think you deserve or would be happy with more”?

We live in a world of consumerism; there is no doubt about that. Simply observe the scores of people, cuing at shops as the newest smartphone is released, (even if they cannot fit it in their budget) many of whom have mobiles that are already in good condition and more than serving their needs satisfactorily.

The universe works on laws. Gravity is a law. As is the law of motion. Gratitude can be directly linked to the law of attraction which is a secondary law, as stated, to the law of vibration which really is THE law of the universe.
Everything is in a state of constant vibration – including ‘solid’ objects. The higher the vibration, the better the FEELING we have.

Nikola Tesla said it right, “if you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration”.

Being un-thankful makes you feel BAD (which is simply, you are in a low vibrational state). This attracts thoughts of a like NATURE. The worse you feel the easier it is for your thoughts to be destructive, painful, fearful.

The better you feel, the more your thoughts will be constructive, creative and loving.

When you feel bad and consequently, lower your vibration/the frequency of your reality, what you attract to your life, experiences, people, ‘circumstances’ all those things are coming to you because you have a low vibration.

Look at the people who earn the least (especially those in less privileged areas) in a socio-economic context. Often living in government housing, alcoholism, gambling much money they do not have to gamble, and violence are all more rampart in poorer families (obviously not in all) but it is statistically more common, especially Western society.

Commonly mistaken is that ‘money’ is the root of all evil, but actually it is poverty which is horrible to live in, I would know, having embraced it myself in my youth.

Money is neither good nor bad, it is neutral until someone has it. A ‘good’ person (someone who is in a state of loving vibration) will do good things with money. Someone who is ‘bad’ (is in a lot of pain and fear) will do ‘bad’ things with money.

How would I know? I have lived in these housing complexes and personally experienced how poverty can affect everything, lack of education, poor health and much more. Having gratitude raises you out of poverty! We only DESERVE more by being grateful for that which we already have.


It has been said that being calm in any situation, is the most spiritual practice, and management of every situation.
When you consider this, it has a profound truth behind it.

Ever wanted to start your own business? Or try you skills at a new sport or activity and been too afraid to do it?
Remaining calm, no matter the situation is the best way to get a good outcome. I have been tested and as I seek challenge, and seek growth, I am often tested on this powerful character trait.

Calmness is the space in which to be to achieve what you want and keep away decisions that will get you what you don’t want.

So how do we remain calm?
Personally I am very fond of Stoicism for this reason – it helps you remain calm. Stoicism was founded by Zeon of Citium. Stoicism is a Hellenistic philosophy was used in ancient Rome and Greece.

Very briefly, stoicism makes use of logic and thought, focusing on learning how to not being controlled by our fears or base stimuli/short-lived pleasures.

It has a strong focus on imagining the waste case scenarios of any situation that is causing us grief in a CALM – and logically way. To be a stoic means working out and coming to a realisation that MOST situations we imagine as BAD or TERRIBLE are not NEARLY as bad as the we imagine they are in our minds (which LOVES to magnify POSSIBLE but UNLIKELY devastating outcomes, in every area of life).

There is MUCH more to stoicism than that (I cover more on Stoicism in a subsequent blog – keep an eye out for it).
Another way to remain calm is to deep breathe. It brings us back to REALITY and not the realities our minds like to create when the mind decides the present moment isn’t good enough, not interesting enough.

We always have the capacity to deal with emergencies when they come up – but the phantom problems the mind likes to make cannot be dealt with because they are not even real.
Peace and love to you. Thanks for reading.

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We can not control our thoughts

We do not control our thoughts. This goes against everything we are taught!

We’re told we should ‘control our thoughts’ and thus our behaviour and therefore our actions and results.
How can I show you that you are not in control of what you think?

Technically, I can’t but you can see for yourself, by EXPERIENCING it. Try this simple test:

Ask yourself this question; ‘what will my next thought be’? After asking the question, sit and observe your thoughts and write down the exact thought that came to you first.

Try to predict what you will think (do this a few times).

As I am sure you will find, you DON’T control what will come to you.

We don’t know what thought will come to us. We can’t control it.
How do we control what cannot be controlled? Can you control the tides of the ocean? Nope, and it’s the same with thoughts.

The human being does have the ability to channel thoughts, thus it appears we create them.

While we can’t choose precisely what thought we have, we can ‘influence the direction’ of our thoughts.

Someone who plays hours of piano each day, what is it likely they will think about often?

An athlete training for hours a day, do you think that training will be a subject in their mind often?

For sure!

It’s helpful to note that often we believe– WE create our thoughts – but we don’t (we create environments conducive to certain types of thoughts). But, we are not responsible for the creation of the thought.

No, thoughts come to us through the aether/infinite intelligence (whatever you want to call it). They arise from no-where, are created out of NO THING and they come TO us – they are not created BY us!

Do you truly believe you control your thoughts? How is that so if we don’t even CHOOSE our next thought, moment to moment, they just come to us? Not only do we not choose them, we don’t even know what they will be. We also can’t control IF we do have thoughts or not – they just keep coming – we cannot TURN OFF our thinking.

The main time we direct, at least the general direction of our thoughts is when we FOCUS intently on our conscious thinking – on a particular thought we WANT to have (or indeed, do not want to have) and this takes a GREAT deal of presence and energy to sustain.

It takes considerably MORE energy and awareness to sustain thoughts of a nature that are totally the opposite of what our habitual way of feeling is. As an example, if you more often than not feel anxious, holding a feeling of love (without using some of the techniques I have listed in the latter part of this blog) is VERY, hard, and almost feels impossible!

We have all heard of trying not to think of a pink elephant…. and what comes to the screen of the mind? You betcha, a pink elephant will appear.

When we monitor and consciously direct our thoughts as best we can, we seem to have control – but even then, we don’t know what we will think from one moment to the next.

Apart from when we are intently conscious/focused on our thoughts, the remainder of the time, our thinking minds work on AUTO-PILOT (they work on auto pilot while we observe too, however we seem to be directing them).
If you observe you’re thinking, a thought will come to you! If you observe for quite some time, you will notice such a wide variety of thoughts.

If you really believe you CAN control your thoughts, try to stop having any thoughts for 5 minutes.
Most of us are lucky to last 30 seconds without thoughts popping back into our minds. The exciting thing about this is that thoughts are infinite in their potential and can be about anything. Any human on this planet is capable of having any thought, and thus the actions that thought leads to, and also achieving any corresponding results!

We do not control our lives, we don’t control anything really. … though we like to think we do.
When it’s our time to die on this physical plane, we die. We don’t choose.

We like to think we are ‘above’ nature – that there is nature and in it’s own special category, we have the ‘human being; – the ‘more-important’ creature (look at how we treat other creatures we call food).

Many of us see ourselves as a separate entity, a special exception to nature.

But we are part of nature! We must remember this to heal, to become more present.

This is all very interesting but how does understanding that we are not truly in control of our thoughts each moment – HELP us?

It helps in a number of ways.
First we gain the understanding that thoughts come TO us not FROM us.

The ‘TYPES OF THOUGHTS’ or what we could call ‘quality of thoughts’ we have, CAN be INFLUENCED a great deal by us changing our FEELINGS, the VIBRATION that we are tuned into.

We want to aim for the feeling we want to feel, which will create an environment for the THOUGHTS on the same vibrational/emotional level to inhabit our bodies and therefore our minds.

Look at those who have very little and are GRATEFUL. Gratitude is one of the highest vibrations, coming second only to the highest which is LOVE.

At the other end of the spectrum, we have FEAR – which is the lowest vibration. All kind of atrocities happen because of fear, not least, conformity.

Fear of not having income, causes many to stay in work that is perhaps not a dream career. Fear of being alone causes many of us to remaining in relationships (including the one with ourselves) that are not uplifting, that don’t really serve us.

Remember, fear and love are emotions – they are states of vibration and what determines our thoughts? OUR most often held, feelings, our VIBRATION, our emotions.

You may have heard of ‘The Secret’ a very successful movie and book series about one of the ‘secondary’ universal laws: ‘the law of attraction’. The law of attraction, IE the thoughts we attract, the ‘circumstances’ we attract are EXACTLY in line with the state of vibration we are in.

What this means is, rather than try to change our THINKING we can focus on our VIBRATION (feeling) within our bodies.
So you may be thinking, great Chris, how does this help me?

It helps in this way: we cannot experience a consistent flow of ‘good/enjoyable/constructive/helpful’ thoughts – when we are in a lower state of vibration.

Nikola Tesla said, ‘if you want to discover the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration’.
The ‘secret’ to thoughts that help us is to have our bodies in a higher state of vibration.

So the question we need to answer is: what creates a higher state of vibration?
Before going over a few quick tips to increase vibration lest first get some understanding of ‘vibration’.

Our vibration in the body and mind is easily observed by tuning in to how we FEEL/our emotions. The emotions we feel most of the time are reflection of our dominant state of vibration.

Feeling sad often, lonely or perhaps you are really happy, vibrant, inspired, at peace.
How you feel comes from the sub-conscious mind (the body).

Feelings/Emotions are energy in motion within the body – E = energy + motion = moving.

Different emotions are experienced at different frequencies, different states of vibration in the body.

To increase your vibration here are some tips (BEST TO DO THEM DAILY) or for as often as you want your emotions being at a higher level, thus facilitating a good space for your thoughts to ALSO be of a higher vibration:

ONE: Sing a happy, uplifting song you love and dance to it (movement is key)

TWO: Get your body into really good health. Love your body, put mostly raw and unprocessed, WHOLE foods that are alive (plants) into your body and MOVE your body every day. Even a walk around the block can do wonders.

THREE: Yoga (YouTube search it) – one of the best ways to raise your consciousness – and the only know way to massage and in doing so, help to heal and detoxify your internal organs (the twisting poses do so the most)

FOUR: Meditation – guided if you are beginner (YouTube search it also)

FIVE: Doing what you love! For me it’s writing, music, moving the body (although it is universal, the easiest way to ‘find ourselves, to return home’ is to do so through the body)

SIX: Company – be around people who inspire, lift, and support and nurture you

SEVEN: ENVIRONMENT – being in nature, a walk on the beach, sitting in a park or a forest is a very quick way to raise your vibration. As we are beings of nature, when we go out into nature, rather than spending/wasting all day inside a building, we start to align our vibration with that of nature – the highest vibration there is.

EIGHT: Change your physiology – just sitting upright will raise your spirit and make you FEEL more confident – which of course – feeling is a vibration.

NINE: Learn something new or improve on something you already know. Experience and learning is what we are here for. What else is life about? Hording items that we must leave when we move out of our physical bodies? Experience is life.

TEN: DEEP breathing. This is why movement is so good – it helps us deep breathe, especially when we actually exert ourselves. The harder the work out the more we must breathe deeply, which is the number 1 way our body detoxes, through the breath! Do you work in an office or shop or another building most of the day? How much recycled, unnatural air do you re-breathe all day – that and ‘air-conditioned’ air weaken the lungs – but by deep breathing in nature, we do the reverse.

Would love to hear your thoughts on this, thanks for readying. Give it a bump if it helped, and follow me for more posts, where I will delve further into the mind, thought and life.

In closing, please remember, while we cannot choose the exact thoughts we will have – each of us none-the-less, responsible for our own lives. We CAN improve our vibration, therefore improving our thoughts.

I wish you peace, love, and growth in mind body and spirit

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5 REASONS why, you haven’t built your life the way you want it, YET

After this pretty picture, here is a question for you…

Have you ever wanted to build your own business, or a career you love, rather than a job, you just work for money?

Here are some causes and ways to start working towards what you want.

ONE: Social CONDITIONING – causing fear of being vulnerable (and unwillingness to put ourselves out there, physically or mentally)

Often we mistake who we are. We think we are our bodies, our minds – our thoughts.

What we actually are is a collective consciousness, infinite beings of pure light energy and love. That is what we actually are at our core. It is hard to imagine ourselves as pure love when we compromise who we are in relationships (we all do or have in some way shape or form); we also work in jobs that we not only dislike, but that cause us pain (the majority of heart attacks happen on a Monday morning, from people on their way to jobs that steal their spiritual energy).

We are meant to follow our hearts, given that the heart has the most powerful electromagnetic field in the body, about 60 times more powerful than the brain! Yet we are taught to use the weaker part, our cognitive thinking rather than the spiritual thinking power of the heart, yes the heart thinks!

Many teachers, masters of the mind, have said – we are spiritual, eternal beings, having a human experience – in a physical body that will one day, no longer be able to house our spirit. This is true!

The spirit – the undying – that beautiful thing that allows SUPER-HUMAN results, and amazing feats of daring, of courage; that ‘intengible something’ that allows people to tight rope walk across massive canyons with no parachute or safety line, or to jump in water to help someone being attacked by a shark, putting our own lives at risk with no thought for ourselves!

We all want to help other beings when we see them struggling, it’s our nature to love!

The power that can be built in our bodies and minds with correct training, movement, thought, fuel and rest, are so far beyond what most of us do in a lifetime, that it truly is sad!

Why do so many of us live such small lives? CERTAINLY less than what we could – considering we are beings of infinite potential – we have unlimited possiblities!

The body is run by the mind (not to be confused with the brain) – the mind is in every cell of our body, and it goes beyond our physical body. We get caught up on our reality being only what we can see, taste, touch, hear and smell.

When we incorrectly identify as powerless, frail beings, rather than beings of infinite potential, our fear of death increases dramatically (fear of our body being harmed or destroyed), fear of being ridiculed (fear of our mind and ego being ‘wrong’ or ‘challenged’, insulted, made to look like fools) and in reality, the irrational fear of death arises within us, preventing any action taking, other than the ‘mindless-habitual-actions we usually take’.

In allowing this fear to take us over, we conform. To lives where we desperately want to do more, but are so confused, conditioned, misinformed, drugged on our so called ‘food’, and as Ralph of Infinite waters says, our vision is lied to by the Television, “which tells lies to your vision”.

INSTEAD of living free lives, with more time out in nature, we stay in jobs, we have been conditioned to do so.

Since primary school. We are taught to sit in neat little rows, looking at the teacher, droning on about something most of us don’t care about, and must do 12 years of ‘prison time’ before we even start in a job, despite being able to learn everything from reception to grade 12 in 2 years or less.

How long did it take you to speak an entire language?

Did you do school to learn to speak or did you just learn by observing others, parents and so forth?

It would be much more fun to play, and find what we love when we are children, but conditioning and breaking down of the human spirit by keeping it locked inside, doing very dull things is a very powerful way to help create humans who doubt themselves, and are too fearful to go out on their own to do what they really love.

This said, we cannot allow this excuse to stop us gaining back our freedom! As adults we are able to choose now!

I have noticed any time I set out to build a business – my massage business currently, it is a challenging, yet exciting journey! The biggest factor wasn’t actually massaging but the fear of the unknown – would people laugh at me trying to promote my business? Could I ‘mess up’ and not offer the great value I truly want to offer my clients?

TWO Lack of knowledge in your field (feeling unskilled, or not learned enough, lacking experience)

This for me was a factor too – and at times still is.
The only way to acquire more knowledge is to get out there and do what it is you want to learn.
The same is said for experience, it is something that requires doing before you get it.

We all want to do our best, deep down, but we have to be willing to start out not so good, average, do it bad if it’s all you can do to start – but just do it! Get started today!

THREE Don’t feel like doing it…………….. yet

This will never change. You will never feel like taking steps you are uncertain about – but this is called life!

When we understand that we are e-motive beings – that is to say, EVERYTHING we do, or indeed, don’t do – is because we want to feel a certain way, or avoid feeling a certain way – period!

Does what you want to do, mean more to you than the risk involved? Often the risk involved is magnified by our dramatising minds (drama is conditioning, we have it in our families on television – even our NATIONAL LEADERS act like children, creating drama and terrible communication among themselves – blaming rather than taking responsibility)

FOUR: You haven’t found what you want to do as a business (listening to your mind rather than heart)

I had NO idea what to do when I was starting out, and indeed, it still feels like I am starting out…. I don’t think that feeling ever goes away, which is fine – we grow by being uncomfortable.

But what I DID do, was to try new things, to develop myself and my mind. I did my Diploma of Management, wanting to further my career in a call centre, office work. I wanted to be a coordinator and eventually, team leader and manager. This was however, just for financial gain and to improve my skills – not to do what my heart desired, what I was good at, what I was naturally gifted at doing
This was my mind telling me I wanted this so I could ‘be happy’ have more money, and go on better vacations.

I knew it wasn’t for me, after observing managers, and team leaders. I wouldn’t care if you pay me $200, 000 a year, I wouldn’t want to be sitting at a desk, doing something I had no interest in for 40+ hours a week
That is prison to me

I discovered personal development – clicked on a Brian Tracy video on YouTube and knew this was what I loved….

So I did my Diploma of Counselling so I could get a job as counsellor after finishing a degree too, though another reason I did my Diploma of Counselling was to further develop my people skills with and to understand myself better.

$15, 000 of debt later, I am not using my Diploma of Counselling to generate income

I am now a qualified in whole body massage too as I thought it would be fun to work as a massage therapist.

It is not my passion – as much as I enjoy massaging, I wouldn’t want to do 40 hours a week of it, as that would be too much and take away from my biggest three passions, I only learned by trying things – by getting off my couch which are:

Learning and teaching self development for mind, body and spirit
Playing Musical instruments, and inspiring people with music
Becoming strong in my body and testing my skill in competition

FIVE: WE have forgotten we are part of nature – and not getting into nature NEARLY, enough!

Nature can help you return to equilibrium, much faster than most things. It can help to rid us of depression, anxiety, loneliness.
Do you think it is natural to stay in a building, looking at a screen to build someones business for them for 40 hours each week?
Do you think it natural to be really down 5 days a week and enjoy only 2?

It is not – life shouldn’t be a struggle to get out of bed, one opportunity clock should be all we need – rather than multiple ‘alarm clocks’ which we wake up alarmed and knowing we have a day we must devote to doing what we would really rather not.

Many of us have started to feel like just giving it all up (jobs we hate, paying 3 times what a house is worth thanks to interested even though our banking system is broken and unfair to the masses).

We would just as happily live in a cottage in the middle of no where and live off the land.

Is your environment conducive to your success?

Who are you spending time with? What is your home environment like? It must be harmonious (for the most part) and supportive.
You need lots of light and fresh air coming into your house.
What is your real home like (your body). While if your house burns down, it can be rebuilt, your body cannot.
If you die, that is it for this physical experience we are having. Also how healthy you are will play a big part on your mindset, and how you feel about yourself.

From personal experience, when the body is toxic, overweight and being polluted (bad foods, cigarettes, copious amounts of alcohol, bad TV) our confidence becomes much lower!

We need health, of mind and body and our spirit must be unconditioned (DE-Programmed) so we can life lives we truly love. Check out my blog on steemit for regular updates

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In life we should be free, to express and grow, Body, Mind and Spirit

Why is it, when we see the word, “FREE”……..

……………something in us gravitates towards it?

Our minds may be thinking: ‘hey has this free thing got monetary value’ or can it help in some other way

Our bodies may think: is it food or drink??

Is it just because we could use a bite to eat or sip to drink, or some more cash that we give this word “free” our attention? Or does something profound, draw us to it…..

Could it be that DEEP down, we feel somewhere in our bodies that we would like to be more FREE ourselves, if only of a few kilos of body weight or a couple of those pesky bills, or to create our own businesses that add value to others and thus more income for ourselves, or just simply, we want to be free for at least a while, of some other responsibilities we feel are eating too much of our time on this earth?

Maybe we are starting to wake up and wanting to be FREE of the mass conditioning we all go through as a society

Living in suburbia in modern society we know that nothing in life, really is free… nothing of value anyway, besides perhaps sunlight, and air though perhaps a lot more things could be, Nikola Tesla’s ideas and discoveries on free energy for everyone *cough, cough*

Are we feeling tired, sombre? Like we aren’t even coming close to using just SOME of our potential, or releasing energy (we release energy not create it – all energy already exists)

Are we so caught up on what others MAY think, or say if we ‘fail’ in our attempts to live our dreams that we don’t even give it a go? Do we stop at one attempt if we don’t get desired result immediately from a couple attempts?

Do we have vigor that enables us to mentally, and physically jump out of bed (after stretching and thinking of what we are grateful for) and running out the front door with excitement, for life (perhaps after getting dressed)!!

In life – Are we letting ourselves down, and if so, does it cause us pain??

Do you the reader, like me, feel like you could use some more education and help with creating more confidence, feeling more energy and unlocking real lasting belief in yourself that –

1. you are able to


2. you are worthy of

– creating your life exactly how you would enjoy living it??

Don’t we all deserve our lives to be inspirational, filled with love and freedom?

If you are a parent, surely it’s not only OK, but it’s EXPECTED that you would want the very best for your child.

If so, why is it not OK to want the very best for yourself, aren’t you a child at heart?

How do you see the future for yourself, your family and those you love around you?

Are you a positive, uplifting person for you fellow person/beings, or do you feel like you need so much uplifting yourself from how much life has crushed you, that you can’t even get out of bed without a stuggle? Do you wake up refreshed or tired?

Does it seem like no one or no thing can give you quite enough knowledge, or the right ‘technique’ or so called ‘secrets’ of success?

I felt the same way for years! Paying coach after coach (til I found my current coach who loves helping people and charges a very modest fee).

I did training courses and seminars, one after the other, each person ‘promising life changing results’

Rarely did I attend a course where there was honest, that we are all responsible for our results and no-one can guarentee anything


A loving act you can do right now for yourself is to consider the following (and if you are going to be really good to yourself, open up Notepad or Word, or grab a pad and pen and take notes on your answers):

When people hear your name, what will they say about you when you 100 years old/if you “make it” to 100?

What do YOU want them to say? Who were you? How did you live, how did your life impact on the earth, what legacy did you leave for your kids and their kids, and your fellow humans?

Were you kind, did you love fully, live your life daringly:

Did you live and strive to experience everything you dreamed, or did you like many of us have at times: conform to mediocrity, and even misery?


  • free from non-foods that make you sick – that you are addicted to (as was I)
  • free from work that isn’t your dream work (here, here)
  • free from corrosive relationships, first & foremost with yourself, but all others too
  • free from a feeling of dis-ease, daily emotional pain and uncertainty
  • free from oppression, depression in all its forms and life debilitating thinking

Did you live your days, getting THROUGH your weeks, not really giving life a real go?

…rather than living the majority of our lives, experiencing the gift, the present moment, because we are focused on what we love or were naturally talented at doing

We are all here to create, we all CREATED our circumstances in our lives, albeit we were heavily influenced by society and conditioning

We learn what we love by participating in as many activities we can! By getting out of our houses and living life!

Is your life situation now, one in which each week, the most joyous sound you hear is your own voice internally saying those words “THANK god it’s 5pm Friday”!!

Do you LOVE your life, those sharing it with you and what you are doing with most of your time? Are you working on things that in doing so, will let your spirit soar?

Is you MIND free from worry (at least most of the time), is your BODY free from all dis-ease – all sickness, and is your spirit therefore able to inhabit your mind and body fully, and thus FREE to EXPRESS, grow, share, love and be totally who you are, and created your life dreams you had as a child which you have now convinced yourself you don’t have…

For many of us, at home, in schools and all of main stream society and media, ‘Love’ has been taught to us to be a physical action we share with someone special – and we try to have good emotions towards each other

We are often not sufficiently (if at all) taught the philosophies of REAL love – for ourselves and with others

Most people wouldn’t say when asked, “what is love”, that “love is the desire and willingness to be totally emotional vulnerable and connected, to ourselves,: it’s about Connection to another a person, a being, is not widely taught

The teaching of connection is limited, because most of us haven’t a clue what it is, much less experienced it for ourselves

MOST importantly, we don’t understand connection because our 3 dimensional being, MIND, BODY and SPIRIT do not have a harmonious relationships with each other

Our minds, hurt, we have thoughts that don’t serve us

Many of our bodies are weak, unfit, inflexible and consistently being poised by our actions and put down in our minds, our thinking

To connect with our selves, or someone or something, to have unconditional love; we must first be able to connect with and have love for ourselves – love for our bodies, our minds and our spirit must be free

How long can look yourself in a mirror into your own eyes, and keep all your thoughts and feelings about you – constructive, uplifting and kind?

If it’s not for long, you may be lacking on the ‘unconditional’ side of the unconditional love equation – we all have times where we do lack this


Wouldn’t we all love to have a deep and meaningful, harmonious relationship with ourselves and everything and one around us?

It’s tough, maintaining harmonious relationships with ourselves that are aware enough to keep our thoughts from destroying our lives – our bodies, our environment, our world

We all want to experience enduring freedom from pain creating habits we adopt so we can live a good, long, healthy and prosperous life, one we can fully enjoy with all other people and things we encounter (what we attract is in a vibrational/energy frequency that we put out into the universe, courtesy of who we are at any present moment

But, because we don’t understand love, (that love is doing what we enjoy, not what numbs us so we don’t feel) we continue to do things that make it even harder to be free – because our unconscious thoughts and actions are those of a lowers vibrational frequency, sometimes so low it is simply a basic animalistic existence

Surely this is a most dire question;  am I living my life just for base impulse, short lived pleasures, food, TV, sex rather than correctly accessing my energy to thrive!

How can we give up compulsive TV/SCREEN-TIME, NON-FOODS/DRUGS, ALCOHOL, NEGATIVE THINKING, over indulgence in any of the five senses in a non constructive manner – misusing our creativity energy and REALISE our dreams?

How can we give up these things, these time fillers, and mind numbing activities or lack there of, when they comfort us in a way, it’s what we know – and we use to fill the void we would otherwise feel more intensely

How can we give up vices that hold us captive in our own bodies, and prisoners of our own minds, when they the very things we use to fill voids we had created earlier in the day or week by betraying what we really want to do, and who we want to be – the void we created from wasting hours NOT doing what we love, day after day!

Instead we may be going to jobs are not in line with our creative spirits, where an hour sometimes feels like a day, or perhaps we keep doing things to our bodies that harm them, sometimes even consciously unaware

We all at times, do or have done things which are not in harmony with our bodies, minds and what our spirits are naturally drawn to

In doing this what happens is we suppress and ‘give up‘, parts of who we are, what we want to do in life (and try to bullshit ourselves that we don’t have dreams, are unworthy of any we may be aware we have, or incapable of ever doing what we really want, who the hell are we to try???)

EVERY SINGLE person has dreams that are so much BIGGER than what conditioned society, collective mass consciousness believes is possible! I CERTAINLY do.

The past 4+ years of coaching for me have really all been going towards me believing it’s possible to live these dreams!! I have been educating and going to seminars, and reading books for the better part of a decade (I am a mere youngster at 29)

I have learned that humans have global desires:

We have all been conditioned, Programmed but want to break free

We want our bodies back! To be healthy and not addicted to poisons & ‘non-foods’

We want our relationships blissful – especially with our selves so we are FREE

We want to understand wealth and create it – seeing people in poverty is painful!!

We want to be successful

We want to RISE and…

We want to LIFT up those whose lives we can, to touch the hearts of people, other creatures, plants and the beautiful earth we live on

I decided to create something to help myself, and whoever I can live a life that is FREE!

It’s interim name is:

 How to wake th* f* UP -  

using life Questions 

This is not a program, but rather an UN-program

It’s purpose is to deprogram myself (building this, working with brilliant people and using it’s principles are precisely how I did it), and the 90% who are living life hurting, not free, but enslaved to impulses, our bodies, and our minds

The goal is to help everyone who is ready, to have harmonius relationships between mind, body and spirit

This is how it works (sneak peak):

UN-programming the MIND things learned from our upbringing/parents,  and conditioning tools (school, jobs and other factors)


UN-programming the BODY – releasing emotions which we have held as burdens since we were children (e-motion = ENERGY in motion)

As children when we expresses emotions – we are learning first, what emotions are – they are so powerful – we cannot control them

Energy cannot be created or destroyed – It can be harnessed, channeled, stored, released (it is everywhere, it is everything)

This in mind, when child is born into this our unconscious world we live in (that is slowly waking), often they are punished at home, or at school for expressing ‘inconvenient’, or ‘naughty’ emotions or ‘the wrong’ emotions at the wrong time

When I child has a tantrum, the experience not having something they want, or having to do something they don’t want to in the shopping center for example, and is punished for doing so – the emotion is STORED!

As adults, we have already been conditioned – we know to be ORDERLY, there are social ‘so called NORMS’ that keep us from killing each other – and they are necessary

So when our children have a tantrum and not draw attention to us (or so I have observed I am not a parent yet) we perhaps feel embarrassed and not know how to deal with another being, this child who is learning to express the emotion of, not getting what they want

This is because we were once the child who was taught and indeed, punished, if we expressed the wrong emotion at the wrong time – we were emotionally suppressed

You must release that emotion to RAISE your emotional intelligence!

The reason this is the focus of the course is that, when your mind and body are no longer conditioned – NOW that we are ADULTS – we have the POWER to UN-program useless ‘shit’ programing we were giving that is running, and INDEED RUINING our lives.

We are able to then, CREATE exactly the life we want!!


I will keep posting updates and snip-its of the program and tips how you can unconditioned your mind, body and free your spirit so you can live how you want and help those you meet to do the same

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A way to clear the mind

What a great day!
Got so much DE-cluttering done, and made some bank on items I don’t use anymore in the process, which I can invest in what I truly love.

If ever your mind is full of nonsense (noise and thoughts) and you can’t seem to clear it, try doing a big clean of your environment. De-cluttering the house can help De-clutter the mind. We need space to be – to exist.

It is good not to get too attached to items and more importantly not to let ourselves be fooled that an item forms part of who we are as a being.

As Eric Thomas said, ‘The most important thing is this: to be able at any moment – to sacrifice what you are, for what you will become!’

This certainly includes getting rid of items we don’t use or need to someone who could benefit greatly from it, will use it and be grateful for the item.

An example, I sold a guitar I had that I hadn’t so much as thought about much less played in at least 2 years. The house was getting a bit too cluttered (we tend to accumulate items over the years) and I knew it was time for space (mentally and physically – the two are intimately connected – psyche and soma).

The gentleman I sold it too, got a great deal, I sold it for much less than I could have, but I didn’t need more money and wanted it gone to create space!

He told me that this guitar was going to be a child’s very first guitar!

Because I was willing to part with something, that guitar is no longer sitting in a spare room, in case one day I want to play it, and will now be the vehicle to take the first steps in a young mind, introducing it to a most wonderful, magically journey, that of a musician!

The reasons we sometimes keep many things for, ‘one day just in case’, is because we can have believes that are rooted in that of a world of lack – that is to say, a hording mentality – where we feel there is not enough for everyone.

It is understandable in some of our older generation as their parents may have experiences the great depression, so terms like, eat all your food (don’t waste there won’t be enough) become very used by a large amount of people – for survival.

We live in the most prosperous and abundant time in history!

The universe is abundant for what we need. Just look how many lemons you can get from a single tree (mine has about 100 and 100 flowers for more that will start growing).

Lemon trees provide fruit all year!

A lemon is something whose juices will alkaline your drinking water (which is good for heavily chlorinated water such as that in SA). The acidity of the lemon neutralizes the chlorine making the water pure!

Water is the what our bodies need most besides air.

Sacrificing what we are can be getting rid of ‘junk’, don’t keep it if you really won’t use it (there is a 1% chance you will ever use it). It is possible to identify ourselves in part by the items we have – but this is superficial. Sure it’s good to have nice things but don’t be attached to the material. Be attached to what truly matters to you and what you love in life

Moral of the story:
Drink lemon in your water if you don’t have filters in them (plant a lemon tree)

De-clutter – home and mind.

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Happy Monday everyone!

Happy Monday everyone!

A day many fear but I love it!

It reminds me of what goals I have and what value I want to offer others and create in my life too. Don’t merely get THROUGH Monday, and the week only to do it again next week and the week after…..but rather, ‘gather some new knowledge you can act upon, continue to grow in body mind and soul’!

As Jim Rohn said, ‘boy it’s easy to just get through the day, but sophisticated people learn to get FROM the day. Gathering value and equities for tomorrow’.

Let’s have a great, life enhancing week, work hard and smart and remember to have fun!

Let’s be present in all our activities, and our interactions with each person that comes into our lives.

Leave everyone who has interacted with us with a feeling of increase, a feeling of ‘I am happy to have interacted with that person’.

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The greatest asset or biggest liability.

While thoughts are our most powerful tool we can use to create and experience anything we want in our lives, thoughts can also be the most detrimental liabilities we have; holding us back at every turn, preventing us from everything we want if they are left unchecked.

If we do not monitor our thoughts and direct them through focus (repetition of thought, holding an idea in our mind and most importantly, writing it down on paper – the most brilliant minds think on paper) and intention (why it is that you want that thing, what FEELING you want to achieve by gaining this), they do indeed have the potential to run us into the ground.

As an example, I have just discovered motorbikes…..

Now the fact is, I could be a highly skilled stunt rider and learn to do jumps or back-flips while on a motorbike; but the very first step towards this is to have the thought of doing such.

The thought pondered overtime develops into an idea, into a desire, and if it was something I did indeed desire, I would become emotionally attached to that thought and my emotional investment in it would inspire action to create a plan to bring in to fruition.

Everything begins with a thought. Consider this: someone who is struggling, dislikes their job, and possibly relationship or whatever; has a thought – A though about trying an illicit addicted drug to escape their pain, or they have a though about changing everything – about starting a university degree or some other form of personal development or life changing hobby – a worthy goal in that is completed in spare time (time not at work and time discovered by cutting back on TV, Facebook etc) in order to change everything, career, happiness, lives – living life with passion and zest rather than numbing with drugs or similar.

Pondered just once, these ideas are ‘just thoughts’ but this is how everything begins, with just a thought – with an idea!

Everything great and terrible in the human world – both of the directions and decisions above, begin with that initial thought.

Over time, if there are repeated thoughts of these two things (drugs or university/self improvement/growth in this instance) the thoughts will gain power and if these thoughts are written down as SMART goals and acted on there will be a result. Anything thought consistently held in the mind, that is charged with powerful positive or negative emotion – will inspire action helpful or unhelpful.

One of the above thought patterns has potential life-destroying consequences, the other, brings a world of opportunity.

So… what are you thinking? Are your thoughts being directed into an area that empowers you to live life doing what you love, using your natural skills? Do you live your life as a free person who decides their own fate or do you follow the masses, living a mediocre, somber life  enslaved to a 9-5 job that bores you to such a degree that you must use base stimuli (junk food, booze, drugs – legal and illegal, television) to survive the day – rather than thrive through each day as we are all meant to!

We all have undiscovered natural talents that if we work on – turn into genius level results. Thoughts of trying new things help us discover these hidden abilities.

Thoughts are our greatest assets or a biggest liability. Thoughts that are repeated over and over in time, lead to emotions which lead to actions. Actions or indeed, inaction are the causes of change in our lives.

Direct your thoughts to the great, to things you love and things will start heading in the direction you want.

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Inspirational quotes

  1. You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. –Mike Murdock
  2. Nothing can resist a human will that will stake even its existence on its stated purpose. – Benjamin Disraeli –
  3. It’s better to be a lion for a day than a sheep all your life.  – Elizabeth Kenny
  4. Successful people are those with successful habits – Brian Tracy – 
  5. The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human can alter his life by altering his attitudes. – William James – 
  6. Success is the progressive realisation of a worthy ideal.  – Earl Nightingale – 
  7. I’ve failed over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed. – Michael Jordan
  8. Never give up on a dream because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway. – Earl Nightingale –
  9. Don’t wait. The time will never be just right. – Napoleon Hill – 
  10. The distance between your dreams and reality is called action. – Unknown – 

What is your favourite quote out of these and why?


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Wonder: the key to an amazing life!

Wonder: the key to an amazing life!

It is phenomenal how often I have heard people say, “my school days were the best days of my life“.

Naturally a percentage of people didn’t enjoy school due to bullying or other reasons, however a large percentage of people did enjoy their school years.

Why is it the case for many of us that ‘school was the best part of our lives‘?

One word: Wonder!!!

In school we had a sense of wonder, everything was exciting and NEW and anything was possible!

In school we where learning anything and everything! We where always being challenged:

  • Challenged with various subjects, technology (woodwork, metalwork, electronics, other)
  • Basic life skills: Cooking, sewing, many others
  • Art: Photography, painting, music, other
  • English and/or another language(s): we where learning to speak, write, articulate
  • Maths: learning to count and work out problems and learn formulas
  • Relationships: learning how to make friends, building the relationships and meeting new people all the time
  • Sport: being active, learning how to play ‘ball sports’, ‘bat and racket sports’ and many others – perhaps aquatics or similar
  • Learning about history, science, chemistry, and many, many other things…

WOW!!! With all this learning, of course life was FULL of WONDER!!!

Let me ask this: Are we waking up with a sense of wonder everyday? If not, why?

We are subconsciously choosing NOT to grow.

Compare the amount of growth we go through as children/adolescents to that which we do as adults and you can EASILY see why many/most adults have the ‘thank god it’s Friday’ mentality, no sense of wonder in their lives and quite simply: ARE BORED crap-less.

Lets put the wonder back in our lives – EVERY DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!

If we are not in the careers we really want to be in, lets change it. If our health is poor and we are depleted of energy from the moment we wake, lets change it!!

If we are over ground hog day everyday, week after week, year after year, then LETS CHANGE IT! Lets WAKE UP! We were not born to be bored pathetic creatures when we (to quote Les Brown) “have GREATNESS within us”.

Anything is still possible for us now MORE SO than it was in school because we are adults now and can choose to do WHATEVER we want with our lives!!!

Lets start learning DAILY again and lets start consciously CHOOSING to do so. Lets study and do new things, learn new skills, meet new people, make new friends!

That is how we put the WONDER back in your life!!!!

Lets take ACTION on this today!!!

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What are we, you and I, living for? Seriously!! What is the point, the purpose of our lives?

This is a tough read… for those of us not yet living on purpose, we could all benefit greatly from considering the points within this post, lets be courageous and read it ALL!!!

What are we living for? Is it for:

  • 5 pm or whatever time we finish work for the day/night?
  • Friday/the weekend or our days/nights off?
  • Our next holiday?
  • Alcohol, cigarettes, drugs – recreational or prescribed?
  • Our significant other/partner – hoping they will give meaning to our lives?
  • Vicarious fulfillment/achievement through our children and what they will achieve in their lives (because ‘it’s too late for us to live a meaningful life, our time has passed’ so now it’s up to our kids to have a great life, at least if they do, our lives will have meant something right?) or is it that we hope that when we do have children, THEN our lives will have purpose (‘reality check’, one day our children will be 18+ and leave home). Will what they achieve give meaning and purpose to us when we are home alone and they are out living their lives, having their own family?
  • Our next meal/non-food/drink/coffee/energy drink/tea consumption – the pleasure of eating/drinking non-food; commercialised man-made chemicals that we call food (and we know are bad for our bodies but love the thrill of eating them). They are made up of synthetic chemicals and drugs (on the label they appear as numbers, or complicated names that the average person doesn’t understand).

Tip: we must read the packaging of our comfort food – if we have no idea what the ingredients are, is it real food? Food is anything that can be gathered from nature (meat/veg/fruit/nuts and so on, mixing natural ingredients into a meal is still food of course). Food is NOT a bunch of synthetically created ingredients, thrown together in a factory (calling it food doesn’t make it food).

  • Our next video/computer game session or violent/murder/drug/sex ridden TV show or movie?
  • Compulsive use of social media and texting people?
  • Reading/watching/listening to all the horrible stories on the news or in magazines/the paper/media (and we say we do so because ‘we want to stay informed’, the real reason we watch that rubbish is because our lives are boring and we are escaping the dull glumness of them by watching anything that has ‘SHOCK factor’ – here is a common thought process (often subconscious) that we have while polluting our minds with the ‘news’: ‘if things this bad are happening in the world, our lives must be good, at least we haven’t been murdered, robbed……’.
  • The next drama of whatever we can make or take part in/listen to, but in particular, family or work drama, anything to entertain us….no matter how ‘sad’ it makes us feel, at least we do ‘feel something’, we feel alive with all the emotion and confrontation.
  • Over indulgence in Sex
  • Any other pleasure that is a temporary ‘band aid’ to help us escape our lives because we are just not satisfied – missing a purpose to live for…

Is our thinking every weekday along the lines of this: ‘Is it five o’clock yet? Is it Friday yet?’

Are we just waiting, surviving? Once we have gone on that holiday, then what? Once we have eaten too much and too often, large amounts of ‘non-food’ over and over again, had too many unhealthy beverages, alcohol, cigarettes, engaged in negative thinking, and all the rest… THEN WHAT?

De-Nile is not just a river in Egypt. Are we going to keep living in the River of De-Nile… that our partners or other people in our lives will give us the purpose and fulfillment that we are currently lacking?

Yes, love with a significant other and children are life treasures and can be some of the most rewarding parts of life…. HOWEVER these things although treasures CAN NOT TAKE THE PLACE OF HAVING OUR OWN PURPOSE!!!

What do we want for ourselves? What can we give to the community, the world that will make it better because we were here? What are we creating? How are we helping others?

Are we just trading hours of our lives for a small amount of money in jobs we find bore us so much it causes us pain, sickness, drains our vital energy and causes us to wake up tired (as if we haven’t even slept), and feel lethargic all day, and to top it off, makes us feel the need to ‘escape‘ using some of the things described in the above bullet points?

We must find something to make our lives about – something that will benefit others, more than just our families.

It makes us better partners/husbands/wifes and a better parents when we are doing something with our lives, committing it to an ever evolving, growing purpose so we can be better people

We cannot live a fulfilling life by making our life purpose solely about someone else; we all need our own individual a PURPOSE for us! Let’s make our lives about something! Create a worthy ideal which can be developed over time and change as we do and be ever striving to achieve it!

Don’t just work, find your career, the one suited to you and your skills!

A great way to increase our happiness and sense of self is to work in or study/train to be qualified to work within a career suited to us, that we enjoy, that resonates with our core values and higher self. We are all individuals with our own unique, natural skills and preferences. A job which suits one person will be a very bad, dull and life-draining for another.

So what is stopping us from getting into the career or working towards the being qualified to be in the career we desire?

The short answer is: SCP –  our Subconscious Conditioning and Programming.

Many people when I have asked them ‘are you in the career you want to be in and if not why’ have said to me: I am too old, I don’t have time, money, the right shoe size, blah, blah blah…..

There are 24 hours in day – for everyone. Sir Richard Branson, William Gates and Oprah Winfrey do not get 30 hours a day, they have the same amount as the average Joe Blogs who does not work or stays in an unrewarding, minimum wage job.

So question to ask is: Why does one person achieve 10 times or 100’s of times as many things as another – in the same amount of time or less time?

The first thing that separates the highly successful from the average performing person is that:

They stop “arguing for their limitations” (as Les Brown says). They understand the law of polarity – which is simply, that ‘in order for something to exist, it MUST by very definition, have an opposite that exists’. ‘Happy’ would would make no sense to us without ‘sad’, nor would ‘cold’ with out ‘warm’ and so on – (we would have no reference with which to compare these things without their opposites, thus would be unable to differentiate between the two).

The only reason we ‘can’t’ do something is because we have decided that we can’t. It is a decision we are often unaware that we have made as it is decided upon subconsciously, on auto-pilot, due to our SCP ‘Subconscious Conditioning and Programming’ without having truly giving any thought to the viability of our decision to believe we can’t.

So if there are reasons that we can’t do what we want with our careers and lives, then based on the law of polarity, there must be reasons why we can! How else could we differentiate whether it can or can’t be done if both of these variables where not possible?

BOTH the reasons why we can and why we can’t must equally exist to make each other comprehensible – that is to say, we need a vantage point to compare the two or neither would have meaning.

Now on a more tangible level – successful people:

1. PLAN THEIR DAY – by means of a WRITTEN LIST. A thought is fleeting. You can have 100’s of good thoughts in a day that if you wrote on paper as ‘activities to do’ would revolutionize your life. However we have that many thoughts, when we don’t write down what we want to achieve, it is as if we don’t want to achieve anything (even though deep down we ALL want to achieve more)!

2. Cut out some ‘screen time’. If we simply get rid of some screen time (Ipad, Smartphone, Computer, TV) – like magic: ‘PRESTO’ now we have ‘enough time’ to invest in a new venture, a course to study for a new career!!! (see my post about too much TV and its affects at ).

3. They have clearly defined and written goals – with accompanying plans defining how they will achieve them. Even if the plans aren’t 100% complete having a written down idea as to how you will start to go about achieving your goal will give you a solid foundation to begin doing so.

Numerous people over 100 years of age have finished degrees, at University!!!! Yet, I hear people who are 60, 50 or even 40 years of age (or YOUNGER!) say they are too old to study and learn what they really want to! Ridiculous! Lets get real people!!

Why do we pretend we are so powerless in our lives when we have the power to create anything and everything we want.

What is it we are really living for?

For many, in fact, most people; the next short lived pleasure is all they live for, the next escape is all that matters, so they can forget about how boring and unfulfilling their lives are, at least for a moment.

I know in the past before I found my calling, that I have been guilty of this (living for the next short lived pleasure). If I am not careful and not focused on the direction I want to go in my life and my goals, it is easy to slip back into living this way.

Why don’t we ASK OURSELVES RIGHT NOW: ‘Are we going to do the same mind-numbing work year after year after year after year… until we retire and just before we die, ask ourselves if we lived a LIE – if our lives could have been something else… something more?

Many people live vicariously through their children or think their partner is the one who will make their life one of meaning… WHAT A STRONG, UN-ACHIEVABLE BURDEN TO PLACE ON SOMEONE ELSE!

The burden of ‘I feel insignificant because I am doing NOTHING of value with my life, I haven’t taken the time to decide and learn what I want for my life, so I need you ‘my love’ to fill my deep seeded inadequacies’!

There is a general thinking among the conforming people, that goes like this:

‘We want more, something different and more interesting for our lives but we certainly can’t and won’t do anything about it ourselves, something or someone else will come along….ONE DAY and give us the more we want…. because we desire more and deserve more!…

As Jim Rohn said (I will paraphrase), ‘If we want to have more, we have to become more’.

If we truly did deserve more, the more would already be here!

We deserve more by becoming more, and we become more by having and working to achieve goals, purpose and working towards a worthy ideal.

We often use the excuse of not knowing how to live life on purpose.

Even worse, and more common, we CONVINCE ourselves that we are happy and content with our lives how they are, when all the evidence in our lives (poor health, no energy, tired all day, apathetic, boredom, relationships lacking intimacy, no money saved, lots of bad habits designed to help us escape, and the above points) indicate that us being happy and fulfilled in our lives, is a load of rubbish!!!

To be successful in our lives we must educate ourselves with the right data. Most of us learn about life from what we observe our parents or guardians doing in their lives.

We also learn about money, relationships, health and purpose (and everything else that matters) from them too . I believe our parents do the best they can with what they learnt from their parents, with their own toolbox of life.

What sets the successful apart from the unsuccessful is that successful people make it their duty to study these key life areas and life in general themselves and not count on ‘luck’ or ‘others’ to teach them about the values of life!

If our parents are/were in their lives, poor financially, sick and unhealthy, unhappy, depressed, have addictions and their relationship ended in divorce like my parents did, and millions of others, do you think we should learn about money, health, wealth, enlightened relationships and happiness from them?

No matter how much we love our parents (and I do love mine very dearly), we can all do better than they did. I want to teach myself a better way than they learnt and taught me as a child and we should all want to do better.

“It is insanity not to want to provide a better life for our children and ourselves than our parents where able to for us.”

We do this by living a life full of meaning and purpose and gain meaning a purpose by exposing our minds to new information from people who are successful in the areas we want to improve in. Makes sense doesn’t it?

This learning and then application of these skills is what creates a meaningful life. Many people I have spoken to or who have seen my EDUCATIONAL posts say or type something such as: “That is great positive thinking Christopher it is really useful”.

While I do believe that approaching life with optimism is the best approach, the information contained in my posts are NOT merely ideas for positive thinking…

They a minute portion of my learning’s from hours of reading books, free and paid coaching with my various coaches/mentors, attending seminars, reading journals from GREAT LEADERS dating back from before the times of Marcus Aurelius, to newly discovered useful tools from the leaders of today such as Anthony Robbins. It is EDUCATION, which we all need.

It is creates the environment in our minds for higher conscious ways of thinking – and better – richer life enhancing experiences than that which are experienced by the masses who do not think it wise to grow – to learn – to live!

These ideas and thought provoking statements are not considered by most and that is why they never set any goals or do anything of real value and meaning with their lives for themselves and others.

When we fill our minds with the right information and use it we will not need to stay in boring jobs. If we are in a job that does not liberate our energy and allow us to use our natural skills and preferences, the only way we can change it is to learn a new skill(s) and/or provide a different service(s) than we currently do.

This is how to change our careers and the new skills can only be learnt in the time most people spend escaping (by doing the above bullet points) on weekends and after work.

Consider, again, PLEASE for yourself, your family, your community and the world:


What do we want for our lives? Are we going to live on purpose or not???

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