Why are our lives not quite the way we want them to be…?

Why is it that:

  • Our health not as good as it could be?
  • Our relationships are lacking deeper intimacy?
  • Our career is not suited to who we are and what we truly want to do?
  • Our finances are not how we would like them to be?
  • Our personal growth and sense of contribution to our family, friends and society is less than we truly want to give?
  • Our personal interests, hobbies and creative passions are not being developed – being placed on the back burner?

It’s because we CHOOSE to have certain– BELIEFS about these areas of life (and all other areas of life), about ourselves and never truly question how they affect us.

This is one of my favourite topics; Belief VS Knowing.

Most of us have become sentimental creatures, but I don’t think this is our natural state, or what The Universe/God/Life/ (Whatever you relate to) intended for us.

Our natural state is to grow, to expand and experience all we can in our lives, not to stick with the familiar and slowly become mere shadows of what we were BORN to be, or what we DESIRE for our lives, those we love, and complete strangers who are struggling that we could help if we only grew in our lives so we had more to offer to others.

To illustrate this point (that we are naturally experiential beings who were born to grow), simply observe a young child. They want to touch, taste, explore everything they can and they do so without fear. As we grow, go through school and work, we are trained, conditioned to act, dress, and behave in a certain ways; we are fit into little pigeon holes of society and ‘the boot may not fit us’.

We are all unique and enjoy different experiences.

We lose our sense of individuality, and fear ‘failing’, not being accepted and poverty. We fear not passing the test and not living up to our perceived (and real) expectations others have of us.

When we choose to believe something blindly, we become familiar with situations, jobs, relationships, ideas and we hold them close to our heart.

It doesn’t matter if they are conducive to our health, growth and spirit, it matters not, whether they promote freedom in our lives, we know them, they feel like home and we have a sense of ‘safety’ staying in our comfort zone and sticking with our current beliefs about these familiar things.

The comfort zone is the danger zone.

Here is an example of how beliefs can betray us, can shorten our lives and make us want to stay on the same path, to remain the supporting act in our lives for our future, rather than take the wheel of our life and become the main character, the STAR in our lives.

First let me give you a distinction between a BELIEF and KNOWING.

A BELIEF is a strong opinion or idea we have in our heads about something that we hold to be true, often without having questioned the idea – it is ‘in our head’.

KNOWING must be experienced – by doing new things ‘it is done by living and as cliche as it may sound – knowing comes from the heart’.

Beliefs are what hold us back, especially when we derive a strong sense of our identity from limiting beliefs.

Here are some examples of how beliefs can affect our lives in a detrimental way:

  • We believe we cannot find a partner who will love us for who we are due to not being good enough or a multitude of other reasons, so we stay in an abusive or unloving relationship, with no real connection because it is ‘safe’, ‘familiar’.
  • We believe that it is not worth the effort to study after work and/or on weekends to become qualified for our dream career so we stay in a job that we find unchallenging, boring, uninspiring and not in line with our true nature (and complain about it, and think ‘Thank God it’s Friday‘ every week).
  • We believe losing the short term pleasure of over eating, over indulging in alcohol or drugs or any other habit is better than delaying gratification and looking after our bodies, better than truly loving ourselves.
  • We believe that it is just too risky and not worth the hassle to do more in our lives, to truly live and be all that we can, we believe that watching our lives pass us by though wasting it all in front of a square box (TV, Computer, Ipad, Smart Phone – take your pick) is too easy to do and we forget our dreams or WORSE pretend we no longer have dreams!!!

Ask yourself a question right now:

“What is it costing me to continue to believe what I do about everything in my life and what am I missing out on experiencing due to not questioning my beliefs”?

Let’s stop holding onto Beliefs that do not serve us, these ideas and KNOW what life is about, what we can become by going out and experiencing what we want to!

Let’s be BOLD and study what we have always wanted to, talk to our partner if we need to, make an exercise schedule and eat a healthy diet. Let’s put in the effort to live life on our terms!

We can only truly KNOW through experience and that is gained by DOING.

Thinking over and over again that we can’t be, do and have what we want to have in our lives is just conditioned beliefs patters; they may not be of our choosing as children, but as adults they are our own creations and only we can alter them.

As hard as it may be to accept that as adults, we CHOOSE what to believe and are the only ones capable of choosing our own beliefs and what we KNOW, we must take on this responsibility.

Our quality of life will be in exact proportion to our willingness to accept that responsibility and to choose new empowering beliefs and better still, to ACT so we KNOW what is true for us to truly be unencumbered in our journey in life by our own mind.

As Robert Kiyosaki says, “Negative thoughts are not protecting you, they are making you smaller”.

Let’s destroy beliefs about life that don’t serve us, let’s start to KNOW about life.

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QUIT your New Year’s resolution!

Quit your New Year’s resolution!


New Year’s resolutions don’t work! If they did, ever year people would have astronomical changes in their lives.

What it comes down to is simply, if you feel the need to wait for a big event such as a new year before you are willing to begin your goal, you are not really serious about it. Anything that really comes deep from within should be acted upon immediately, right now, this instant.

Here is a common trend for New Year’s resolutions:

Meet Harry. He’s an average middle-class worker. He is overweight, eats too much, smokes too many cigarettes, drinks too much alcohol (binge drinks on weekends and after work has a few too many most nights), works in a job in which he feels like a drone, due to not using any of his natural skills and passions (no growth), the lack of challenge and repetition of tasks, he stays up til 3am watching TV to numb his mind and try to wash off some of the boredom of the day at work, despite needing to arise for work again at 7am.

His intimate relationship is dying, lacking loving and vibrancy, with most of his time spent with his partner the ‘together’ time, consisting of sitting next to each other in front of a square box with lights and colours.

He has no formal study to support what he wants to do for a career and his life’s work (and is not even sure what that is), and now he is deciding to make his first new year’s resolution to ‘change his life’. Furthermore, he is only going to make A SINGLE RESOLUTION per Year:

Year one: now a non-smoker.

Year two: in addition to year 1, also now a non-drinker or drinks only a couple times a year.

Year three: in addition to years 1 & 2 also now a fitness junky that has less than 8% body fat, ripped muscles and eats little to no junk food, only wholesome foods most of the time, and good portion sizes.

Year four: in addition to years 1, 2 & 3 now goes to bed at a good hour every night.

Year five: in addition to years 1, 2, 3 & 4 has invested the time and thought to discover what he wants to do for his life’s work (decided to become a counsellor). Has begun studying counselling after work and on weekends when needed to act on his dream career.

A few years later…..

Year eight: in addition to all the NYR’s made, now finally has a career which adds meaning to his life and freedom, is challenging, allows for more self-expression and stimulates growth every day.

It has a much higher income to support desires for travel and a higher quality of life. In addition over each year he has given energy to his intimate relationship and now they are truly loving partners, INVESTING time together daily, going out, being creative, growing together…..


……you can see what I am getting at here. In a single year, our life could increase in quality dramatically, if we made just ONE ‘Major New Year’s Resolution’ that we actually KEPT to.

Within five years we wouldn’t be able to imagine our old life even if we use a telescope to look back and within ten years we would be a new person.

Our lives WOULD be changed in beneficial and positive ways that we could not imagine right now.

If this is true, why would I say to quit your New Year’s Resolution (that is if you haven’t already)?

More accurately I should say, don’t create New Year’s Resolutions in the first place. As I said earlier:

“If you feel the need to wait for a big event such as a new year before you are willing to begin your goal, you do not really want it enough”.

The challenge with many of our New Year’s Resolutions is that they are often ‘wishy ideals’ made when we are at our most relaxed, it’s Christmas, we are on holiday, over eating, not working, with family and friends, relaxed, perhaps a bit tipsy. They are ‘well I should do this’ type goals rather than ‘this is what I really want for my life, because I deserve it’ goals.

Furthermore they are ‘let’s start on the 1st of January goals’ while in the lead up to it we do exactly the opposite of our goal, for example:

  • It is December 25th a decision is made that on the 1st of January; we will stop over eating and significantly cut back on junk ‘food’ to ‘lose weight’. But until that point, we ‘allow’, even encourage ourselves, to gorge ourselves senseless, consuming more junk than we would normally.


  • It’s New Year’s Eve. We decide our NYR as of 2nd of January will be to cut back significantly on alcohol (starting with a three month alcohol detox altogether) because we have a drinking problem, drinking after work or binge drinking on weekends, but we have condoned letting ourselves get absolutely hammered tonight since we don’t start cutting back until the 2nd of January (the thinking is, ‘let’s get all the booze in we can before we stop altogether’).


This signifies a lack of true desire to change, a ‘let’s get all the gluttony, overload on our bad habit while we can before we torture ourselves with eating less, drinking less and eating real food in healthy portions’, when in our heart we are not ready to quit either of these things or commit to whatever our NYR is…

SO what does that matter?

What matters is the mentality behind this thinking. This is acting out of fear, guilt of being overweight, caring what others think, fear of death (as opposed to the joy of living) rather than coming from the only place of power we have for PERMINANT CHANGE – DESIRE FOR MORE LIFE, LOVE and RESPECT for ourselves.

Can we turn love on and off? NO.

We can’t decimate ourselves by eating like fiends one moment, or drink ourselves into a stupor and then go to eating healthy food in better portions out of fear and call it love. An internal change must happen before we can change the external habits – our outer world is a reflection of our inner world.
We either have found enough love for ourselves (from introspection) to eat only what we need and for sustenance rather than as our main source of pleasure and to escape OR we have not yet found the love it takes to honour our bodies with only the necessary food needed.

With New Year’s Resolutions we decide, ‘hey it’s finally time to change something in our life’. For some unknown reason, we tend to take accountability when a new year is looming around the corner.

Could it be the innate drive and desire in our heart of hearts that has been buried by our conditioning and lack of self-assessment, or by our decision to conform and bury our heads in the sands of our lives?

Is it the desire to do, be and have more which has been awakened by yet another unsatisfactory year passing?

Or is it perhaps arising due to fear: fear of being and doing nothing of worth in our life, fear of not being good enough for other people (or our significant other) or fear of our own premature death or ill-health due to self-neglect and boredom?

What do we fear more, truthfully?

The unknown and the journey we must take through it if we are to realise our dreams or the fear of not taking the journey at all. I think that logically, we fear the unknown and in our heart, we fear not taking the journey to see what our lives could be, what we could truly be.

One of these thinking patters is based on freedom and love. One isn’t.

So… if I am suggesting that you quit your new year’s resolution, (which by now most people who made them already have quit, as far as numerous research and studies have indicated); what could you do INSTEAD?

If by some happy chance, you have chosen something dear to your heart, and your NYR is truly something that you want for your life, change your NYR to a LIFE resolution. A goal for your year is a start, but what is it leading into? Why do you have the goal?

It’s GOOD to plan and have goals for your day, week, month and year but a one year goal with no thought to what it leads into for your life purpose is lacking the true power of a life goal.

So, we need, LIFE GOALS. We must discover what we want.

The way to do so is simple.

It is easy.

Yet, it is scary.

It is so simple and easy, that the simplicity of it coupled with the fear of failure, or worse, the fear of success, makes us want to turn and run the other way because we don’t trust in or believe in ourselves anymore.

Here it is how to find what you truly want (like I said it is so simple):

Ask yourself, “What do I really, really want for my life”? Now you may get a flash of your major life DREAM – as Napoleon Hill calls it ‘your definite chief aim in life’ (if you don’t keep asking yourself the above question over and over again until you do, write the question on a piece of paper). The power of putting your desires and heart into a pen on paper is beyond explanation.

When you get the true answer, immediately you will very likely want to dismiss it because you don’t know HOW you are going to achieve it.

We often dismiss what we truly want; pretend we don’t really want it because we are scared to go after it. We fear the emotional effort, money and time we will have to commit to turn our biggest dream into a tangible goal and with no guarantee of success. We may suffer temporary defeat, over and over again. I know I have.

Never let temporary defeat stop you from getting up again and again and again until you can stand in victory and the feel the joy achieving your goal.

That is where the scary comes in, because when WE decide what we want, we also realise that WE are responsible for its attainment, and the only one who can achieve it is ourselves. When ‘we don’t know what we want’, we can blame others or ‘circumstances’ (which are self-created) that our lives are boring and unfulfilling.

For me, my goal is to be a world renowned authority, leader, speaker and someone who finds new discoveries in the field of psychology. This scares the hell out of me because I already have many commitments and studying in addition to all of them will see me with very little down time to relax and do nothing. There is a great financial commitment I must make; it will require tons of emotional energy and thousands of hours to achieve this dream.

For me, my stepping stone is to become more self-aware and conscious. I am doing this by completing a Diploma of Counselling which I am currently studying. My next step will be to do two more years study at university in counselling and then a year of supervised counselling to become a qualified counsellor.

This will put me in a career which will require me to be very self-aware and congruent which will provide me with skills and build me up for the 6+ years I will need to invest to become a psychologist.

This is massive for me. I have financial commitments, and am required to work to keep those commitments. To be a psychologist requires 3 years full-time University, then another year for honours (all with good grades), and then the equivalent of two years working fulltime in the field of psychology supervised. That is 6 years FULL time, so part time who knows…

We should not make some lousy guilt induced resolution due to the passing of another year. This kind of resolution is done in fear, not hope and the desire for more freedom and self-expression.

We are not going to keep it, we don’t really want to commit to it and it doesn’t truly inspire our spirit and therefore won’t rekindle the fire within us that we had as a child. (Do you remember the dreams we had as a child to be a fire fighter or police officer of to be a vet and work with animals. Did it matter that we didn’t know HOW we were going to become any of these things?)

It won’t inspire us to go after what we desire for our lives. It won’t liberate our energy and touch our soul with desire and joy.

If New Year’s Resolutions worked you would have all the money, good health and vitality, relationships, skills, career, choices and freedom to do what you want, when you want. Can you say honestly that you have never made a NYR only to see it disappear within the first week or two of beginning?


‘A DECISION MADE RIGHT NOW – TO LIVE OUR LIVES ON PURPOSE’ not on January 1, not next week;



  • Our work
  • Finances
  • Intimate relationship, intimacy with our partner and all other relationships
  • Our Health and exercise program
  • Peace of mind, Joy and freedom
  • Growth and Inspiration
  • Personal hobbies
  • Our artistic leanings, in music, or any other art
  • Our contributions to society and the world
  • Our meagre example we set for our children on how to live life on purpose
  • All our habits

Decide what you want for your life, not for a year. It takes one goal, one focus in your life to start slowly but surely changing all the underlying bad habits. It takes time, but as a good friend of mine says, ‘when you do what you love, you will find what you love’.

There is nothing as beautiful as a human being who is living an inspired life, full of passion and hope, forever growing and expanding to higher levels of consciousness, developing their inner world and as a result, their outer world reflects the changing person, and with this growth, they inspire others.

So I say, quit your new year’s resolution (if you haven’t already) or better still, if your NYR really is what you want for your life, make it a life resolution. DECIDE what you want for your life.

Invest the time you need to reflect on what gives you the most joy. For me it is helping people, music, using my body (exercise) and getting to know myself.

2015 is just a year, just as 2016, 2017 and every year after that are just years.

Your life is so much more than a year.

As motivational speaker Les Brown says, ‘Decide what you want and go after if as though your life depends on it, why? Because it does.’

I thank you most sincerely for reading this, and hope that it is thought provoking for you and inspires you as much as it has me, to get up and LIVE. I ask that you please leave a comment.

Finally, really ask yourself:

‘What do I want for my life?’

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EVERYONE wants more in life – Here is HOW!

EVERYONE wants more in life. If you go to work and while there you are counting down the hours until 5pm or counting down the days of the week until Friday, YOU WANT MORE. However you have probably talked yourself into thinking you don’t really want more. You may have said something like; “I am really quite happy as I am, everything in my life is not quite how I want it but I am OK with that”.

Just like people talk themselves into thinking they are OK with ‘intimate’ relationships where both parties are just trying to use each other to facilitate their own deep seeded inadequacies and weaknesses rather than to work on themselves and conquer their weaknesses.

For others, it is physical health/weight/appearance. They pretend they are happy with being miserable, sick, overweight and so on. That it is somehow OK because they observe so many other miserable ‘normal’ people.

You and I both know this is a load of rubbish!!!

Sickness and misery is NOT NORMAL AT ALL, it is a manmade INSANITY and the fact that many people are so doesn’t make it NORMAL.  The total opposite of this is your natural state: healthiness, peace of mind and unconditional love.

It is a sad thing to lie to other people but continuing to live a half-life and lying to yourself that you are happy with it, damages you on such a deep level. If you are doing this you can say goodbye to your self-confidence, purpose, meaning, unconditional love and self-respect.

It’s a pretty heavy price to pay for not putting in the effort to grow and learn about who you are and what you want to do in your life.

Have you ever heard the expression, “De Nile is not just a river in Egypt?” Well it’s not. Stop living in the river of De Nile and be honest with yourself.

IF YOU ARE HONEST you DO want more in at least one aspect of your life: if may be

  • More skill for a hobby or new experience trying new activities you have always wanted to try.
  • More recognition and fulfilment at work, home or in your recreational activities, clubs or groups.
  • A more challenging and thought provoking career.
  • More money (or more accurately the choices and therefore freedom money can buy)
  • A more healthy body to live in (preferably your own body) J
  • A truly intimate relationship where you and your partner together are adding more to each other’s lives because you are both complete and confident in who you are as opposed to a ‘relationship’ in which you and your partner are using each other as an emotional crutch to make yourselves feel like your lives have meaning (due to not knowing your own value).

Well you can always have more because you can BECOME more.

You can be fulfilled and KNOW that your life has meaning and direction; that this year doesn’t have to be the same as the last 1, 5 or 10 or more years have been. You can have more and different things and experiences because you can grow to become more and do different things.

So how do you do this? You do it by developing yourself, your skills, learning what you love and giving back to the world, your unique gifts and talents so that other people can enjoy the beauty, art and benefit of your creations.

You GET more by first, CHANGING your attitude, and second, by REPEATEDLY putting new, empowering data (THAT WORKS) that is in the area your desire to improve in, into your subconscious mind.

For help on attitude, check out my post on Attitude:

Finally, subscribe to my blog to prove not to me, but to yourself that you DO WANT MORE and you are NO LONGER going to live your life like this is TAKE 1. You have one life here in this body you are in, so why not see what you can do with your life?

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Personal-development and growth are NOT ANYTHING…..

….they are EVERYTHING!

I discovered personal development and the field of self-improvement when I was at the most depressed and trying time in my life. Life itself seemed meaningless and I was really trying to find out what was the point of it.

Having found self-development in this state, I have studied it with such a great intensity, that most people, even on the path of developing themselves, would never desire to commit to and this was due largely to my longing for growth in my life, for change.

I therefore had a compelling reason to study: my hunger to improve. I am devoted in my life towards constant and consistent growth, life long learning and self-mastery. This dedication has evolved into a burning desire to inspire others to aspire to do and be the best they can be, and to learn how to master all the aspects of their lives.

Everyone has a story, and to illustration why I grasped the field of self-improvement I will briefly share mine.

Coming from a torn family background and having had depression most of my life, I became an alcoholic from the age of 18 and continued to numb myself, causing myself many embarrassments and challenges in my life until I was 25.

What started the change in me, going from seven years of being a smoker and alcoholic who just wanted to quit and felt powerless to do so, broken relationships with partners and having no purpose in life – to who I am now…

…a non-smoker no longer reliant on alcohol, having an amazing relationship, and my ULTIMATE PURPOSE IN LIFE DISCOVERED, the start for me was that I clicked on a Brian Tracy YouTube video. This was my first exposure to any such teaching – the first ‘how to develop your potential and create a life you desire’ material I had been exposed to.

The overwhelming joy I felt inside of me while watching it and just after I had finished watching the clip relit the first and burning desire I had to break the alcoholic, depressed and torn family cycle, the desire I have held since I was a child.

Not only did I desire to break the negative traits of my father and grandfather, but I keenly desired to make my life and life situation one I loved, one of thrive rather than survive and then the knowhow to inspire others to want to do the same.

It was about 14 months ago that I watched that Brian Tracy video. Until then I did not know that self-development existed – at least not outside of formal education such as university or TAFE, nor was I aware of the POWER, freedom and peace that is found in self-knowledge and growth.

See TAFE and University are great for helping you to create a career, but they will not teach you how to CREATE A LIFE.

That you must learn yourself, through choosing to read personal development books, listen to material or seek a coach to help teach you how you can uncover and bring to the surface, your own values, desires and life purpose.

I have committed myself to growing through studying the material of many people who are masters in the field of human potential and personal achievement. Here is a list some of my activities and the intense personal-development which I am still rigorously and joyously journeying through, the things I have done to grow:

  • Invested thousands of dollars in training, and personal development material – (clearly notice how I used the word ‘INVESTED’ rather than ‘SPENT’ – because invested implies an opportunity for a ‘return/gain/improvement’, whereas SPENT implies a resource is ‘used up/consumed/depleted of energy’). I KNOW that every cent I put towards my growth will pay dividends in the proportions of 100’s or 1000’s of times the amount of my initial investment – this is the attitude ALL who are serious about personal achievement MUST adopt!
  • Invested hundreds of hours listening to self-mastery audio, nearly everywhere I drive I have personal development audio playing
  • I have read many e-books/articles and blogs on the subject of self-mastery and developing a winners mindset
  • Attended many seminars/events and self-development trainings
  • Been coached and mentored formally and informally by numerous highly successful people (and still am being coached and mentored)
  • Do daily reading of self-development books
  • Discovered my life purpose and created my own success blog…

(…and I still do all the above)

…And from all this, I have ONE tip which is the most powerful technique that I have learnt, and in my reality it is the MASTER technique to change everything in your life into what and how you want it to be.

I discovered the most powerful technique for achieving what you want but it requires not only KNOWING what it is but UNDERSTANDING and USING this GREAT power for change which is:

THE POWER OF your ULTIMATE DESIRE for your life combined with FOCUS and REPETITION

…the force of these three combined IS IMMEASURABLE


THE MORE YOU ARE EXPOSED TO AN IDEA (that you hold in your mind in the form of thought), the FASTER your results will reflect that idea, whether they are ones you desire or not.

Consider this quote, “We become what we think about”, Earl Nightingale.

Or perhaps this one: “We become what we think about most of the time”, Brian Tracy.

Or even: “A man (or woman) is what he thinks about all day long”, Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Can you see a common theme here?

You can try with all your might to achieve something other than that which matches the thoughts that you repetitiously hold in your mind, but what determines your results are YOUR BELIEFS and the subconscious programs and conditioning in your mind – PERIOD!

If the subconscious conditioning does not match what you want, which is to say, the thoughts and beliefs in it are not in harmony with what you desire to achieve, you will NEVER achieve it.

Here’s the GREAT info for you. YOU CAN choose what you want to CONDITION YOUR MIND with and change the programs YOURSELF – in fact once you are and adult – YOU are the only one who can recondition your mind (that is if you want a different result in any area of your life than you are currently getting).

This is why REPETITION combined with FOCUSING on WHAT YOU DESIRE




In more detail, Brainstorm what you want for your life, spend some time doing this, write out all the possible things you want to do, be and have.

Which idea is the one that makes you get tingles in your body? That you love so much you could want to smile and cry just thinking about it? Choose that one to start and WRITE IT DOWN.

Focus upon what you have written – and how you can achieve it, focus upon it more often than the time you spend not focusing on it. You SPEND time when you are not focusing on something you want. You INVEST time when you are focusing upon something you want.

REPEAT the idea – rewrite it every day and reread it three times a day!

It is that simple. (of course I will help you if you want more guidance, you need only email me and ask at:

It is simple, yet very FEW understand that the only way to really have a quantum leap in your results it to change the programming in your subconscious mind, the part of your mind which controls ALL YOUR PERMINANT RESULTS and HABITS. The POWER contained within the Power of Repetition is akin to that of The Law of Attraction, which is a powerful universal law which is based on the law of vibration.

Repetition is what helped you learn EVERY SKILL you have. To walk, drive, READ THIS J type and everything else you now do without batting an eye, which as first you had to give your FULL attention to. UNTIL you, through repetition, put the ACT into your SUBCONSCIOUS mind; which is where it now holds the full power that your subconscious mind adds to that act.

Think about it, how many songs can you remember all the lyrics to when they start playing?


EVERYTHING you believe about yourself, society, ‘your perceived limitations’ (because that is all limitations are – individual perceptions), everything you know to be true, is based on you having been exposed to an idea and then that idea being repeatedly reinforced, by people you looked up to or still look up to, media, friends, family, society and more importantly BY YOURSELF.

Once you believe something, you will only see things that back up that belief.

A belief really is a form of learned blindness – anything contrary to something we believe often gives us a sense of threat (if what we believe is ‘wrong’ then we are wrong, no one wants to be wrong). Therefore we tend to only see things that match our beliefs and block out all other possibilities. Do you think that may be limiting?

We all back up ideas we believe to be true by gathering ‘evidence’ subconsciously.

This includes all ideas, about what sort of person you believe someone to be, to what you think you know about yourself or who you have decided to be (for example, when you say, I am a shy person, or I am an outgoing person, you are programming yourself to be that someone of that very nature and your mind sees evidence to BACK IT UP, and sees ONLY the evidence of what you believe to be true). This is why when you are not your ideal weight, or you have a detrimental habit you want to change into a positive habit, you may feel it is impossible.

Change your beliefs, change your life.

Remember the powerful formula REPETITION x WHAT YOU DESIRE x FOCUS = success.

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The ATTITUDE you CHOOSE each day AFFECTS everything in your life

The ATTITUDE you CHOOSE each day AFFECTS everything in your life I am going to share a teaching which I am putting together that I am basing off a single statement/quote made by a master in the field of self-development – the late Jim Rohn. This statement by Jim Rohn is -“Most people are just trying to get THROUGH the day.

Sophisticated people learn how to get FROM the day.” I have put the words “THROUGH” and “FROM” in capital letters as this is the main focus of the message I want to share. To someone who does not understand the teaching and IMPORTANCE contained within this small message – the statement may just sound like a cute or clever compilation of words. Jim Rohn

Pictured Above Jim Rohn

I have through long thought on this quote; put together a much-needed elaboration and explanation as to why it is so important to get “FROM” the day rather than “THROUGH” the day – well it is important only if you want to be successful and grow…if you are happy with mediocrity and conformity, then this message isn’t for you – naturally if you are here reading this – you are not interested in conforming, you are interested in growing, and for that I congratulate you!   Ok, time for the message…

If you choose to adopt the second attitude/mindset I am about to share with you – it will start to very rapidly move you into the minority group of the top 5-10% of the population (the people who are working towards their goals) much quicker than many other techniques will – it will move you into the awakened portion as many teachers call it. There are two main types of thinking in the world – as far as attitude is concerned:

1. The attitude of I want to get “THOUGH the day” – which is the attitude/mindset CHOSEN by the VAST majority – about 90-95% of the population.


  1. The attitude of I want to get “FROM the day” – which is the attitude/mindset which is CHOSEN by the MINORITY – around 5-10% of the population.

First let’s discuss the “THROUGH the day” attitude/mindset. Through the day, has a connotation of SURVIVING day to day and can really be summed up in this statement: “Today is boring, not good enough and I want to get away from today or at least, this part of the day – because some other time of day such as 5 O’clock (pm) or tomorrow/Friday/the weekend is better than this moment/day”. So what? Some may say.

What does it matter if I choose this attitude if it is just another ‘boring’ weekday of work, or getting the kids ready for school or in particular, ‘Monday’ for those who work Mon-Fri and dread Mondays? How is this significant?

Well…the message you are feeding your subconscious mind by allowing your conscious mind to think in this manner is “There is nothing good about today, there is no value contained within this day and I just want it to be over”.

As a result, you do not look for opportunities to grow in all areas of your life; your mind is closed to ALL other opportunities that exist within the so called “problems” of the day, as most people call them.

People who engage in thinking, who INVEST time in understanding themselves and their thought patters, know these so called “problems” are really called “challenges”. They also know that for every challenge accepted, they are rewarded in some way, even if the outcome isn’t quite what they wanted it to be.

When people get the outcome they want, the reward may be monetary, or recognition, a higher understanding of self or it could be in any of the other many forms of rewards that exist.

Even when the result isn’t exactly the one which was planned, (which negative people call “Failing” – realistic and positive people call it “getting feedback” because they know the only true failure is failing to take on a challenge; they are still rewarded – simply because they chose to accept the challenge – they chose NOT to hide from it) even then, they will still be given the opportunity to LEARN and GROW to enable a better, more desirable result next time.

Now let’s discuss the second, the “FROM the Day” attitude/mindset.

FROM the day, has a connotation of COLLECTING and GROWING through the accumulation of taking things of VALUE FROM the day – which you can take with you through your whole life – summed up in this statement:

Today, right now has many opportunities to grow, in body, mind, spirit, in skillset, character, in relationships, personal interests and hobbies – this moment is as great as any other moment. Today is great and I will use this day to see what I can learn, how I can GROW.”

Now which mindset do you think would serve you in your life more? Wanting to grow each day, to take FROM the day or to survive THROUGH the day?

How many Monday’s are you going to face with negativity, there are 52 of them in a year (so you may have a few weeks off, or a public holiday here or there so let’s say you go to work on just 45 Mondays a year); in ten years you will FACE 450 Monday’s. YOU CAN FACE OR EMBRACE THEM!!!

Are you going to just get THROUGH all these Monday’s and subsequently allow the negativity of your MONDAYITIS to seep through the rest of your working days of the week? Will you let a negative attitude towards the start of the week cast a dark cloud over the rest of your week, so by the time Friday comes you need to say “THANK GOD ITS FRIDAY”?

Or are you going to join the small percentage of the population and collect FROM the days of the week, the skills you need to do whatever you want with the rest of the Monday’s of your life? Are you going to grab the reins of your life each day and say MONDAY BRING IT ON!

I am not only ready for you, but I want to SEE WHAT I CAN DO WITH YOU!!   One skill gained or improved upon each day, quickly adds up over a week and a year.

The positive cumulative effects of demanding to seek and take with you value, lessons and skills from each day very quickly will change the direction of your life.

It will change your health, income, level of satisfaction with your career, relationships, spiritual, bodily and mental from things that cause you misery, to things that cause you joy.

I want to leave you with something Steve Chandler said in his “100 Ways to motivate yourself” audio: “Today is a microcosm of your entire life – your life in miniature. You hold eternity in the palm of your hand”. Make today – your masterpiece. You must be, one of either of the following: VICTIM or VICTOR! Choose to Win!

What will you do now?

Zig Ziglar has a quote, “Motivation isn’t permanent, but then again neither is bathing.” Simply put “Life is full of de-motivation if you are around negative people. Get your daily growth motivation from my blogs. Keep yourself motivated.


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How to be promoted

How to be promoted: it a common misconception that ‘amount of time traded’ = ‘money earned’. To be more correct, ‘value/service provided in time traded’ = ‘money earned’. You see, to assume that anyone is only worth so much an hour, is absurd.

Your value to the workforce may presently be worth a certain amount, based on the VALUE you are able to contribute and the time it takes you to do so.

Think a moment.

Do you believe top CEO’s and General Managers/Directors started their first position as such? I can assure you, that they did not.

They worked hard on themselves, thereby becoming deserving of such lucrative and challenging positions. Inevitably, when you work hard on yourself, your life situations will increase in quality, in all areas, including career and income.

We earn money, only for the SERVICE and VALUE we are capable of providing in the space of time in takes us to render our services. SO increase your value.

As Jim Rohn said, ‘Work harder on yourself than you do on your job. If you work on your job you can make a living. If you work hard on yourself you can make a fortune’. And make a point to remember that not all fortunes are monetary.


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Goals today, and not just tomorrow

Have you set your goals for today? Goals give you direction. Consider for a moment the following quote:

“If You Don’t Know Where You’re Going, Any Road Will Get You There.”

–The Cheshire Cat, Alice In Wonderland

I use to make the mistake of only setting weekly, monthly, yearly or longer time period goals.

The power of small goals through the day quickly adds purpose to any day & value, motivation and energy to the week.

Once you set up your goals properly and break them down to daily activities; achieving your daily goals will ensure you will achieve your weekly goals and in doing so, achieve your monthly & yearly goals and so on.

For me, this I found to be true. Daily goals = purpose.

Consider if there is truth in this for you.

I value thoughts and discussions with others. I will honour any comments to the best of my abilities.

Keys to wisdom do not reside in the mind of a single individual, but in the collective mind of all who truly desire wisdom above all else. Those who can heed the words of others, take their meaning and respectfully discuss their understandings will in the end reap the most fruits for their labor.


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BET you have NEVER read anything like this…..

I BET you have never read anything like this:
I believe, as many, MANY great leaders do, that the best way to improve your quality of life is through self-education (ok so that should have got rid of the people settling for the LEAST they can do and have in life).

Now, for those select few, serious about living, who realise that this is not ‘Take 1’ that life is here and now and that we all have 1 chance to live life on our terms; to who want to grasp the sails of your future, and direct this phenomenal ‘ship you have been given called life’ to where ever you so choose:

I truly hope you gain insight, motivation or something of worth to take away and APPLY to your life, from reading this post….)

If you feel as though you want to achieve more in your life, if you are unsatisfied with your current life situation, the various aspects of your life in the major areas of life: living environment, career, fun and recreation, Personal-Growth (As a quote I invented goes:

“Habitually choose to practice “Growth For Success”, because “Growth is Success”) of body, mind and spirit, relationships (Romance, friends, family and associates), health and finances, I suggest that for only 21 days, that you try something that you never have done; after all, those of you familiar with Einstein would know his quote about insanity, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result”.

The reason I say 21 days is because that is how long it takes to learn and set the foundation for a new habit. All habits can be changed, you cannot eliminate a bad habit without REPLACING it with a new habit.

If you do not choose a habit which will add value to your life, you will automatically replace it with a destructive habit. All habits exist for a reason, they are there to meet a perceived need so do not just try to quit a habit with out replacing it, for you will be left with an emptiness, a void with you will need to fill.

No for 21 days, I suggest some empowering habits, try these techniques: listen to inspiring self-development audio by leaders in the field of human potential:

Some names for you: Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar, Bob Proctor, Earl Nightingale, Brian Tracy, Napoleon Hill, Steve Chandler, Eckhart Tolle or Google some other names.

The key is to listen to this material ALL the time you are traveling or are on public transport (you can use headphones if you are on public transport with an IPOD/mobile phone or other portable device).

Alternatively, or better still, additionally, read for 30 minutes a day, books or ebooks about self-development by the same above teachers.

“I don’t have time you say?” Really? Is that what you truly believe or is it an unconscious conditioned pattern in your head that you learned from hearing your parents, relatives, co-workers, friends and many other people and associates you know say those words over and over again: “I don’t have the time” or “I am too busy” (busy doing what?)….

Please stop and think about that for a moment.

I learnt that I could make myself sound VERY busy if I wanted to, but when there was something that was fun and easy to do, I could all of a sudden “find” all the time in the world for the fun and easy activity.

We all have the same amount of time in a day – 24 hours. Some people however, choose to give up their arguments for their limitations and DECIDE to develop themselves so they can achieve more in a day AND – we all can do this. The only real challenge you have in life if yourself.

If you want change you must act as though you do. These above two things can literally change your life. What it will do is reprogram your subconscious mind.

The more positive and empowering material you allow your mind to feast upon, the more your old conditioning and beliefs that you cannot achieve all you want will be replaced with unlimited beliefs, self-confidence and most importantly, the DESIRE to change, which is the first step to taking the necessary action you need to increase your skills.

This increases your ability to contribute a greater value of service to society and your employer and will therefore gain more fulfillment and purpose in your own life and a more lucrative income if you desire such.

Here is a quote you may have heard; ‘we are what we eat’ and in a sense that is true: our body grows or deteriorates based on the foods or the man made chemicals we call food that we decide to eat most often.

Try considering this one: ‘we are what we learn’, a quote from Robert Kiyosaki’s amazing book, Rich Dad Poor Dad. This is pure truth.

A quote I made which is similar is “We are destined to become that which we habitually do and MOST IMPORTANTLY, remember that THINKING IS a DOING.” Whether your thoughts and self-talk throughout the day are consciously chosen or you allow your mind to be a monster and take you over, by paying no attention to your most dominating thoughts, what you DO or choose NOT TO DO will determine the direction, the quantity and the quality of your life.

Ziglar said that “You are what you are, you are where you are, because of what has gone into your mind”. This quote teachers one thing; ensure you are learning something worth learning.

‘Work harder on yourself then you do on your job’. Most people won’t even consider investing half an hour a week, much less half an hour a day into their mind (I strongly suggest you invest a minimum of half an hour a day into your mind), yet it is the key to helping them REALISE and achieve all their dreams and goals in life.

Learn a new way. Take a new path. Forge your own path.


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Growth For Success

Five principles for success

–          Desire – a ‘Burning Desire’

Desire is fundamental to success, in anything. Many people just have a wishy washy idea of what they think they ‘might’ want. Two basic examples are:

  • I want more money
  • I want to lose weight

These are neither specific nor measurable, they are therefore, powerless.

Firstly, how much is more money? What do you want your weight to be?

Most people do not want more money, but rather they want what more money will bring them: more choices, a better lifestyle, travel opportunities or simply put; more Freedom.

Hill stated (in his book Think and Grow Rich) that in order to achieve your goal; first you must have a “Burning Desire”.

Desire begins with first knowing what you really, really want, and more importantly, why you want it. Without desire, conformity exists.

Once you know why you want something, this will increase your desire to set a goal, and once it becomes a ‘burning desire’ you will be much more likely to want to take the next step which is…

–          Decision – a ‘no other options’ choice

Many people do not understand this word, ‘decision’ and get it mixed up with the word should:

  • I should go to the gym
  • I should stop smoking
  • I should stop overeating

Most people think that they are making real decisions all the time such as these. WRONG they are not decisions at all.

A decision is one of the most powerful tools in our inventory. Google ‘Decisions by Tony Robbins’ to learn really how important this is. In my terms, once you make a decision, there is no other option but to fulfil that. This is the power of true decision.

When you decide that you want something enough and you have a big enough burning desire, the next step is to decide to achieve this by setting a specific goal.

Make the goal worthy of you. You are worthy of any goal, so set one that as Bob Proctor says, “scares and excites you at the same time’.


–          Direction – Network, expand your circle of influence

This is simple, and yet often undervalued or overlooked. A friend of mine attended a Luna Wilson seminar where he learnt that Network = Net worth. Think about it. How are you going to make a cent on your own?

How are you going to learn what you need, be inspired and mentored by only yourself? Expand your world. Network, find a mentor or mentors. Read the books, listen to the self-help audios and attend the training seminars.


–          Belief – Unwavering Confidence in yourself

You will not follow through on any decision truly unless you believe the goal you have set and more importantly, believe yourself worthy and capable of achieving it.

Repetition creates belief.

–          Action –  Involves ‘Doing’

This is the final principle; Action!! For this I suggest Googling the words ‘Action definition’. How many great ideas have you had, and lost.

A decision is not a decision until it is acted on. Action will create belief. Sitting still doing nothing will create and strengthen fear. Taking Action WILL destroy your fear.

Desire, Decision, Direction, Belief & Action.



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